Anal sex is in most men’s fucket list of things to do. Women are often a lot less enthusiastic about it. Why is it that men would like to use the rear entrance? And what keeps the ladies? NBRplaza did the research.
10 Reasons why men like anal sex
1. It is forbidden
In many cultures anal sex or sodomy is forbidden for centuries, or at least it is a huge taboo. And that is exactly what makes it so interesting. Getting what you shouldn’t makes anal sex desirable. Every man should have tried it at least once!
2. Blame porn
Even in most middle of the road porn movie, anal sex is part of the love making. Even if a man didn’t specifically search for anal sex, chances are he came across it anyhow in some online movie. Of course he knows that porn isn’t realistic. But anal sex seems so natural, that he might think it should be part of the deal. Because anal has become so mainstream, a man thinks that everyone is doing it and he might be missing out on something if he isn’t.
Anal sex gives him a feeling of power. He feels he has the upper hand and that excites him. It is even more important to those men that have a little less power in everyday life.
4. Not every day
Anal sex may have become mainstream in porn, it is still something rather special. Something like turkey on thanksgiving. A man will see it as a special gift from his partner. Something you don’t do every time, but it will add some extra variation to it.
The vagina is built to pass a baby’s head. The anus is a lot tighter. And it doesn’t have that natural lube. These two natural and biological circumstances provide for extra friction and that makes it a lot better.
6. His ex loved it
Although most women prefer vaginal sex over anal sex, there still are plenty of women who love it and even ask for it. If a man has ever come across one of those women, chances are he imagines every women will like it just the same.
7. No pregnancy hazard
No matter how safe you do it, there will always be this little voice in the back of his head saying he might run the risk of becoming a dad. That alone triggers a fear for commitment. With anal sex, the chance of pregnancy is a lot smaller (technically a drop of sperm could leak from the anus into the vagina, but chances on offspring is negligible).
8. Sex for the sex
Anal sex is some sort of primal thing. It is animal like and raw. If a woman offers herself this way, it will be huge turn on.
In order to penetrate the anus, there is a bigger need for foreplay and communication than with vaginal penetration. That alone makes it much more intimate. Besides, it could involve pain (if not done right). Allowing him to penetrate the anus, takes complete trust.
10. He just loves your ass
There are two types of men: those who love breasts and those who love ass. The curves of your butt is a huge turn on for a lot of men. It’s as simple as that. That is why he might also try to stick a finger up there when you are doing it doggy style.
If you are slightly interested: why not? The anus is very sensitive and has a lot of nerve endings. Touching, licking or penetrating the anus can be just as good for men and women. But precaution and care is a necessity.
What women think
Anal sex is one of those things that a women either loves or hates. At least, so it seems. Many women have tried it and some just don’t like it. But there are also many women who just can’t get enough of it. It’true that it takes some trial and error before you get it right.
Pro: just like the men
Women who like it, like it for the same reasons as men; it is tight, a little taboo, they like it when he is in control, and it is intimate and sensitive. But it is also something you don’t do every day. It must be something special.
Women who like anal sex say it gives them a feeling of being ‘filled’. Certainly when the man is a bit bigger (longer), vaginal sex can be painful or uncomfortable. With anal sex, he can just go all the way in. Besides that, the barrier between the anus and the vagina is so thin, that some women get the same sort of stimulation with anal as with vagina penetration. But just not similar. Get it? The sphincter sucks his penis inside and if you simultaneously stimulate the clitoris and vagina, she gets double the fun. Some women even feel that the G-spot is stimulated while having anal sex. And there are women who even experience an orgasm through anal sex, without any other stimulation.
And also the naughty part makes it exciting for women. Especially for those who like to talk dirty in bed. “Fuck me in the ass” just sounds nice and dirty. A man wants a princess in the kitchen, and a whore in bed. And with anal sex he gets just that. No one has to know.
Cons: Ouch and yuck!
Still, anal sex is not as natural for most women as it is for men. And they that do not like it have a strong opinion about it. First of all there is a chance of dirt. Yes, in porn it all looks so clean, but everyone who experiences anal sex just knows that there is a big risk of some yuck coming out. The idea of a man getting his penis all covered in brown, just fulfills her with horror and shame. Women do their utmost to be clean and beautiful and poop is the last thing they want to give to their partners. Sure, you can take an anal shower, go to the toilet in advance, but there is no guarantee and it also takes away some of the spontaneity. Don’t forget that porn movies can be edited. So if anything may go ‘wrong’, you won’t be seeing that. However, men who worry about that, are probably just not the right partners to have anal sex with. Besides, poop washes off easily.
But apart from the dirt, there is also a risk of getting an infection if the man goes from one whole into the other. Bacteria from the anus should never get into the vagina or it could cause serious and painful infections.
Because the anus doesn’t produce natural lube, penetration and friction can be painful. Always use a good and special lube. The sphincter must be completely relaxed and that calls for a good and hot foreplay. If she is not fully excited and relaxed, anal sex is a no go. That is why he needs to spend a lot of time in teasing and building it up slowly. If he is the kind of partner that likes 30-seconds sex, then the thought of anal sex will lock her sphincter instantaneously.
The anus has very thin walls and can easily bleed. That is why anal sex is a hazard for STDs. And that can also be a reason not to do it. A good condom combined with the right lube is the only solution. A condom will also prevent getting dirt on the penis. By taking off the condom, he will also undo himself of any bacteria and dirt.
1. Alwasy use lube. Experiment a bit with how many and what kind. Don’t use greasy stuff (like vaseline), but use a good lube based on water or silicone, that is specifically for anal sex.
3. Be gentle and built it up. Use your fingers and tongue as foreplay. Licking the anus might be a strange idea, but it can be a great experience.
4. Only do it when you completely trust each other. If it is done right, the chance that you will be doing it again only increases. But when done wrong, your chances have passed (and you blew it not only for yourself, but also for everyone that will come after you).
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