Some men are intrigued by the idea of being deprived of sexual pleasure and that sex is a privilege that only belongs to their partners. Everyone is entitled of their own fetishes and fantasies en chastity for men is one of them.
Men with an interest in chastity, find this fetish provocative ans sexy and are often turned on by the cheer sight of a chastity cage. Their fantasy is stimulated by the idea to be surrendered to their partner and erotic submissiveness. It’s not only about physical arousal, but more about the interaction between the mind and their identity. For them, the chastity game is entirely between the ears.
The focus point of their fantasy is that the key to their penis is literally in the hands of their partner. Hi cock is hers en he is depended on her to ‘free’ his most precious body part. The partner even has control over how often and how long he is allowed to masturbate. Because only when the cage is off, he is allowed to play with himself.
The total surrender of a submissive man with a taste for chastity cages, is expressed by the desire to be locked, loved and owned by the partner. Carrying a chastity cage shows a total commitment and loyalty. He longs for escaping from the daily reality to express his submissive feelings.
When you have a man with such feelings, remember he needs a safe environment to exercise this fetish. It takes full devotion and trust to play with a penis cage.
Depriving orgasm is extremely erotic for many men. But also delaying orgasms can boost the actual orgasm.
Many men with a love for chastity cages see women as superior creatures. A full submission with a chastity cage is the ultimate way of showing that. The goal is to please his partner and he will always put the pleasure of the key holder above his own. By wearing a cage he is more capable of doing so.
Tips for beginners
Many people start with chastity, without realizing what to look for. That’s why we spoke to a number of people that have a broad experience with chastity products for men. Their experience led to the following tips:
- Learn to postpone your orgasm first.
People often start simultaneously with chastity and orgasm deprivation. Of course it is hot to deprive yourself from orgasm by wearing a chastity cage, but most probably you are not ready for that in the beginning. Wearing a chastity cage is a thing in itself. When you are getting used to that, it is not very easy to be distracted by your urge to have an orgasm. Try to be ‘dry’ for a couple of days first. When you are used to that, you can start wearing a penis cage.
- Do you have the right size?
The biggest mistake people make is buying a cage that is the wrong size. If the cage is too big or too small, it can cause issues. Buying a cage of the correct size is not so easy. In fact, you probably only know what size fits best, once you’ve tried one. That’s why it is important to look for an adjustable penis cage the first tim., like this one or the CB-6000, that come with rings in several diameters. The size of the cage itself is of lesser importance than the size of the rear ring. When that is too big, it will slide off, but when it is too tight it will pinch and can obstruct the blood flow. For any beginner, an adjustable cage is recommended! Do measure the girth of your flaccid penis to get an idea of the size of cage you might need.
- Do you have the right style?
There are many different designs and styles available. Some cages are very comfortable in use, but because they are ‘closed’, it is harder to clean yourself or the cage when you are wearing them. That won’t be a problem if you only wear them for a short period of tie, but after that it will be necessary to take it off, for instance to take a shower. Other designs are more ‘open’, which will allow you to wear it for a longer period of time. These are usually metal cages. Most metal cages are made of chrome and are reasonably prices, but will get rusty after a while. That’s why you can better invest in medical stainless steel or titanium. There are also manufacturers that make customized cages, but they might cost you an arm and a leg. The ‘disadvantage’ of open design cages are, that you can’t fully prevent touching the penis. These models require quite some discipline.
- Take good care of the skin
Don’t think you can buy a cage, wear it, and you’re done. The devil is in the preparation. Start with trimming the pubic hair (but don’t shave!). Of course, it looks great; a well groomed dick. But it will start to irritate. For beginners, that is not recommended. Trimmed hair will not get caught in the locks, but the skin irritation will be minimal.
Before you put on the cage, it is recommended to apply some lube. Use a good amount of water based lube. Apply some on the skin to make it easier to put the cage on. You don’t want the thing to slide off, but you also might want to be able to move around in it.
Lube is always a great idea, and is of the utmost importance with silicone cages, because they have the tendency to stick to the skin more.
- Don’t start wearing it for too long
Of course it is cool to put on a cage and give the key to your master or partner. Unfortunately, and reality don’t always go hand in hand. t’s better to take it slow. Don’t start wearing a cage 24/7 from the start. Start with just an hour. Take it off and let the skin breath. Now, you can put it on again if you like. Also, don’t take it on long journeys. Check regularly if everything is still OK. The first couple of times, it is inevitable that you will get aroused. That will make wearing it uncomfortable. Allow yourself some time to get used to the idea. Perhaps you may want to change rings? Only when you are comfortable enough you can start to build time. Start with a couple of hours, then perhaps an entire day. Always have some lube at hand, wherever you go. If you succeeded to wear it for an entire day, take it off before you go to sleep. Tomorrow is another day.
Sleeping with a cage is a completely different sensation. Believe us that sleeping with a cage is not that easy. Most men get several erections during their sleep. Always use enough lube before you go to bed. When your partner allows you, it might be a good idea to have an orgasm before you go to sleep the first couple of times. Also, make sure you’re not supposed to get up early the next day, because you won’t get much sleep. And make sure your bladder is empty (some men get erections in their sleep from the pressure of their bladder).
- Always have a spare key at hand
The thought of having just one key, that hangs around the neck of your partner is of course awesome. But it is wise to have a spare key at hand just in case. There are plastic seals, that can be broken in case of emergency. They have a unique serial number, so your partner can check if you rare cheating. A keypad is also a great option, so your partner can give you the combination from a distance. In the old days, keys were sometimes placed in a sealed envelope. Of course you can break your cage with much violence, but that is expensive.
Only when you are a full pro, you can start to think of giving the key to someone else for a full commitment. And don’t forget to enjoy!
Shopping for penis cages
When your are interested to buy chastity cages in a safe and discrete way, look at our wide range of penis cages in our shop. Prices vary from just 10s to several 100s.
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