With a ‘jerk-off instruction’, one person (often a woman) gives instructions to another person (often a man) about how they should masturbate and how or when they can cum (or not). The instructor might say, for example, how quickly the other person should masturbate, or when he should pause.
JOI: from vanilla to BDSM
The JOI often expresses itself in a porn video, in which a porn actress talks to the camera – and therefore to the public. Sometimes the actress in question makes it extra ‘difficult’ for the viewer, by performing certain sexual acts in front of the camera. Sometimes, there is also an extra niche if certain fetishes – such as foot fetishism – are part of the JOI video. Videos of men (or women) giving instructions to women are extremely rare (even though that could be very hot).
Although a JOI porn video is accessible to anyone with an internet connection, it does not have to be limited to just that. In a vanilla relationship, it can very well serve as a real life foreplay. I that situation, the JOI gets the meaning of ‘encouragement to masturbate’ (jerk-off encouragement), with some teasing and temptation.
In a BDSM relationship, a JOI can perfectly and in a low-threshold way be combined with orgasm denial, or chastity, or femdom. While watching a JOI porn movie the instructions are still fairly non-binding. But in a femdom situation ‘live’ or ‘in person,’ JOI is considered a serious matter. In that case, the person giving the instruction is completely in control of the other person’s orgasm. Sometimes humiliation can be an aspect too.
JOI and related subjects
You will now have an image – if you did not already have one – of jerk off instructions. However, this is just the beginning. Because once you get to know the subject, you will also come across a large number of related topics:
- Ruined orgasm: The person who masturbates must stop at the ‘point of no return’; that point where an orgasm presents itself and has actually become inevitable. By stopping and still coming, part of the orgasm is ‘ruined’.
- Dirty talk: Part of the excitement of a JOI is related to the nasty talk of the instructor.
- Exhibitionism and voyeurism: Some people have a fetish to be viewed (exhibitionism) or to peep (voyeurism). These fetishes can be perfectly combined during a JOI game. It also fits in with the desire of some people to be ‘caught’ (and then humiliated) while masturbating.
- Edging: A JOI will of course be more fun for both parties if it takes a long time. By postponing the orgasm as long as possible (edging) it will eventually be experienced even more intensively.
- Forced orgasm: Orgasm denial and forced orgasms are in the same spectrum. You give control to someone else and they determine when, how and how often you cum.
- Cum eating: It can be extra humiliating if you are instructed to have to lick up your own ejaculate (for example, after you come in your hand, in a glass, or over her breasts).
- Mutual Masturbation: If the person who gives the instructions also starts masturbating, there is in a sense a question of mutual masturbation. Something that can be incredibly hot!
- Cock Hero (link is in Dutch): A bit like guitar hero, but with jerk off instructions …
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