What is a 'brat' in BDSM? - Naughty Business Report

Brat is an English word that means something like ‘bitch’ or ‘punk’. Although you may prefer not to be called a ‘brat’ in daily life, in a BDSM setting it is a specific role, namely that of a submissive person who deliberately is bothering you.

What is a brat precisely?

The world of BDSM and kink is particularly diverse. The dynamics between different ‘players’ has many different forms. The ‘brat’ (submissive) and the ‘tamer’ (dominant) is one of them.

In general, a brat is someone who contradicts his or her Dom, who misbehaves, and constantly seeks the limits. That forces the dom to take strict action and to force the brat to obey.

You could define a brat as ‘someone who wants to be put in his or her place, through discipline, because he or she has misbehaved.’ Although the brat is a submissive (or sub), it will fight back, make demands, shout at the dom, or challenge the dom. All of this to force the dominant person to make a move and to punish the brat extra hard. That reprimand must fit in with the sexual fantasy of the brat.

And what is a brat-tamer?

Because a brat is not an ordinary sub, it also requires a special dom. Such a dom is also called a brat tamer. It is therefore a dominant person, whose role is to literally tame the brat.

For many dominant persons, a brat is an intolerable jerk. Not every dom can handle a brat. And people who call themselves a brat often do so with some pride. In this way they want to distinguish themselves from willing submissives.

It is therefore important that the brat and the dom are aware of each other’s roles in advance. A dom must know that he is dealing with a brat. As always, advance communication is crucial.

How brats behave

There are different degrees, from shy to downright disrespectful. But they all have in common that they misbehave to get attention.

The brat will contradict the dom, by saying things like “that’s nothing,” or “is this all you can do?” With this, the brat challenges the dom.

If you want to start with ‘brat-play’, it is good to first cautiously start with a bit of a struggle. For example, start by being dominated to give oral sex. The brat can then resist, give a big mouth, and then finally give in.