
Anyone who says size doesn’t matter is lying. If he’s created too small, you still have to get by. But believe me – and I speak from experience – if he’s too big it can be downright painful. So if your new boyfriend hasn’t exactly been at the back of the pack when it comes to giving out genitals, I can imagine like no other that you’re going to be scratching behind your ears a few times anyway. Because even though the thought of a huge penis might make your panties moist beforehand; how on earth are you going to handle it?
Big – bigger – huge!
One big dick is not the other. One is long, the other is thick. And in a few cases it is both. It’s also not predictable whether a guy is big or not. I’ve had skinny boyfriends with a penis as thick as their forearm and muscular boyfriends who were shrimpy. Even shoe size is not a good scientific predictor of the size of his case. In the end, the bottom line is that you don’t really know what kind of meat you have in the tub until the time comes and you take off his pants.
Scientific studies from Stanford University have shown that the average size of an erect penis has increased by 24% over the past 30 years. According to this study (February 2023), the average length of an erect penis is now 15.23 cm. The average erect girth is 11.6 cm. To be clear, “average” is not the same as “normal”. A flaccid penis of 6 to 11 cm and an erect penis of 11 to 20 cm are considered ‘normal’. A flaccid penis smaller than 6 cm is considered small (micropenis), larger than 11.5 cm is considered large. A stiff penis smaller than 10 cm occurs only in 1 in 5,000 men, larger than 22 cm occurs only in 1 in 10,000 men.
But yes. For now, the chances of winning the lottery are much smaller than the chances of encountering a man with a cock over 22cm. So when the time comes and he turns out to have a huge penis, it can be pretty intimidating. How is that thing going to fit? And how do you make it a little fun for its owner, too?

Foreplay: jerking off and sucking a huge penis
Foreplay is fun and especially when you have a big penis on the hook it’s important too. But more about that later.
A large penis can provide the necessary challenge in oral sex (blowjobs). A long penis won’t quite fit in your mouth – unless you’re good at deep throating, but who is? – and a fat one may not fit between your jaws at all. Fortunately, that’s not at all necessary, either. After all, the glans is the most sensitive part and especially the frenulum (that little triangle at the base of the glans). Focus on that part during oral sex by licking, kissing and sucking it. Meanwhile, you can massage the penis with your hands.
Most owners of penises are very visually oriented. Therefore, make sure he has a good view of what you are doing. Make eye contact while you go along the entire length with your mouth, run your tongue along his frenulum and use plenty of spit to make it all slide nicely. Remember that when you moan, the vibrations of your voice resonate in his cock.
Foreplay for you
If you want to go beyond jerking off and sucking – and I get that you want to – it is important that you are sufficiently relaxed and aroused. Especially with a large penis, this is important. Because if you are aroused then your pelvic floor muscles and vaginal walls relax, which will make it easier for the big penis to penetrate.
Therefore, a quickie with a big penis is often not a good idea unless you are already extremely aroused and wet. Spend time getting completely comfortable and let the initial shock of the sight of that huge cock settle for a while. If you have aroused him with your hands and mouth, it is only natural to expect the same in return. Take the time to drive each other crazy first, before moving on to penetration. Kiss, lick, caress, make out, ride, rub, massage, and/or masturbate together to warm up completely. In addition to fingers and a mouth, a sex toy can also help get aroused.

Will it fit?
Once you are fully aroused you may be ready for the next step: penetration. Don’t worry, you can do that too! Anyway, if you experience pain or it’s unpleasant in any way, say so and stop. Listen to your body. Take a step back and continue the foreplay, or finish it with your hands and mouth. Better next time, when you are more used to each other or when you have gotten to know each other a little better. Communicating is therefore very important. Say what you like, but also say it when it is uncomfortable. Ask your partner to take it slow if it feels too tight. Let your body get used to his dick before going any further. Try to include your clitoris in the play as well to increase arousal. Ask him to finger you, possibly do it yourself, or use a vibrator on your clit before continuing with penetration.
A great tool that is often secretly underestimated, but is a godsend with large penises, is lube! Especially silicone-based lubricant I can heartily recommend in this case. Silicone lubricant does not get absorbed into the skin and therefore stays nice and slippery for a long time. Use lots of it. The only disadvantage of silicone lubricant is that it is better not to use it with a silicone sex toy. So if you also want to use your favorite silicone toy when fucking, use water-based lube. Don’t put that one too far away, as you may want to replenish some lube every now and then.
Positions for when he is huge
Not all positions are suitable when your partner has a large penis. The good news is that other positions are ideally suited. Either way, the best positions for you are those where you are on top. That way you are in control of how deep he goes and the pace. Spooning is also great because you can’t thrust very hard.
In general, positions where he penetrates you from behind – doggy style – are the least comfortable. And the missionary position can also be uncomfortable. An advantage of the latter position is that you have some control over the depth of penetration yourself, by tilting your pelvis or flattening your legs or closing them a bit. If necessary, put a pillow under your back to help tilt your pelvis.
What’s fun about a huge penis?
Let’s not forget that not everything is annoying about a big cock. Such a huge dick can also excite your imagination. Awaken the porn star in you. Be his slut for once and adore his thing in all its grandeur. Maybe you see it as a challenge to see how far you (he) can go? Try sitting still on him and tightening your pelvic floor muscles to massage and drive him crazy.
A big cock also requires you to take it slow. I already said that a quickie with a big one is not a good idea. So this obviously requires that you take your time for each other with extra foreplay. And what girl doesn’t want that? A vagina can handle more than you think, so a penis is rarely really too big. And if it does turn out to be, use your imagination, your hands, your mouths, toys, masturbating together, … Communicate and you will find that there is always a way to satisfy each other.
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