For many people it may not be obvious to wear shoes in bed. Still, wearing high heeled shoes can be very exciting, certainly when you combine those with some stockings. Sexy footwear can stimulate the fantasy and increase the erotic tension.
The history of the stilettos
A stiletto is a shoe with a high thin heel and is named after the stiletto dagger because of the slim blade and pointy end. In Dutch, a stiletto is also called a ‘needle heel’. The heel of a stiletto is at least 2.5 centimeter (1 inch), but can sometimes be as long as 25 centimeter tall (10 inches). In that case the shoe has platform soles. The diameter f the point of the heel is no more than 1 centimeter.
It is not clear when the first stilettos were worn, but the term stilettos was first used in the 1930s. Yet, high heels existed before that. One of the first photos with high heels was made in the late 19th century. On that picture we see the exotic dancer Mistinguett who worked at Le Moulin Rouge and the Folies Bergère. She was one of the best paid dancers of her time, and had her legs insured for as much as 500,000 francs.
Although high heels were worn by both men and women to make them look taller, the stiletto soon became an erotic piece of clothing, rather than a practical shoe.
In the 40s and 50s, the photos of Bettie Page made the stiletto popular in combination with stockings as a fetish item.
In the 60s the stilettos almost disappeared. But in 1974 Manolo Blahnik brought them back to live with his shoe ‘The Needle’. From that moment on, they appeared in all kinds of shapes. And from the 80s they were combined with business outfits. A stiletto was not only sexy, but also a represent power. From the 90s on, the stiletto was seen in combination with skinny and flared jeans.
Stilettos are often associated with the ‘femme fatale’; the powerful sexy and seductive woman.
What makes a stiletto so sexy?
When you wear stilettos, you look sexy. Many women feel more attractive when they wear high heels. The heel acts like some kind of extension of the leg, that males you taller and makes you look confident. When you are taller, you also look more slim. Your feet will look smaller and your calves and booty get flexed, which emphasizes your feminine shapes. High heels are elegant and chic. It is also said that heels make your pelvic tilt, the same way they do when you have sex. This will enhance you feel more sexy.
On top of that, they are the pinnacle of femininity. Dragqueens and cross dressers aside, they are worn exclusively by women. Even if a man wears stilettos, it makes him look womanly.
Psychologists from the Université Bretagne-Sud (France) discovered that women on heels get more attention from men. These researchers let women put on shoes that had heels of zero, five and nine centimeter. Each time, one lady entered the bar. She sat down at a table and crossed her legs, making her shoes more visible. With flat shoes, it took 13.5 minutes before the first man approached the woman.With five centimeter heels it took 11.5 minutes. And with high heels it only took 7.5 minutes. According to the researchers, this means that the heels increase the attractiveness.
Stilettos in bed
But is this reason enough to keep your high heeled shoes on in bed? Isn’t it a little weird to be naked in bed, with nothing more than just your stilettos on?
Stilettos are a great piece of lingerie. They are provocative, seductive and very erotic. It is naughty and salacious and leaves no doubt to what it is you’re after: You. Want. Sex.
But how do you introduce stilettos in the bedroom?
Very often, the shoes are the first things that come off during foreplay. Should you put them back on when you take it to the next level in the bedroom? Just consider that sex with stilettos is so much more than just sex with pointy shoes on.
Stilettos are a statement. It will strongly effect the dynamics between you and your partner. It will give you more confidence and will make you more powerful, perhaps even a bit dominant. It will make it easier to behave differently. It’s like the red nose of a clown. With the red nose he will be funnier. Well, with stilettos on, you might dare to behave, move and talk more sexy.
The trinity: Stockings, Suspenders and Stilettos
Can it be any hotter? Yes. Don’t just wear shoes with (extreme) high heels, but add stockings and suspenders. No need to take them off. Your partner will love it when you keep the trinity on the whole time. By keeping some clothes on, you will add spontaneity and excitement.
Start wearing the combination when you go out and have your partner notice that you are wearing stockings and suspenders. Show him a gaze of the edge of your stockings when you cross your legs and your skirt shoves up a little. Or just whisper it in his ear. ‘Let the games begin’!
The shoes will eventually trigger a Pavlovian response. They will become synonym for sex. Next time when you go out, and your partner sees you wearing the shoes, he will rear up instantly.
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