Imagine having to ask for permission to masturbate. The power that comes from a chastity toy – or chastity device – and relinquishing control of an orgasm is tremendously exciting to some people. Yet few people actually experiment with it and that is a shame, because it can also fit into an erotic game that has to be much less extreme than you might think at first glance.
If your partner is wearing a chastity toy, you can more or less force him or her to shift the focus. Before you allow your partner to (finally) have an orgasm, let your partner fulfill your needs. A chastity toy – or chastity device – is a very special sex toy. Or actually an anti-sex toy. Because by wearing a chastity device you literally relinquish control over your arousal and orgasm. Your genitals are temporarily locked up until the person with the key releases them. Below we tell you more about the different chastity toys.
The History of Chastity
We all know chastity belts. Even if only from movies like Robin Hood – Men in Tights or Mad Max – Fury Road. But what do we really know about them? When we think of a chastity belt, we think of a kind of iron pants with an opening at the front through which the wearer can urinate, but not penetrate. We associate it with medieval gentlemen, who wanted to ensure that their wives could not share bed with other men, while they were – often for years – at the frontline. Some (sex) museums like to display such misogynistic torture instruments from the dark ages.
However, historians doubt whether chastity belts were used for this purpose or even whether they even existed in the Middle Ages at all.
If you put a chastity belt on your wife, she cheats with the blacksmith …
Albrecht Classen, wrote in his book The Medieval Chastity Belt: A Myth-making Process, that it is highly unlikely that women’s chastity was preserved in this way. If only because the woman would probably die from the health problems she would experience wearing such a thing for more than a week. The reason we think they existed is because they were depicted in books from around 1400. However, it is likely that it was a satirical joke.
It is much more likely that historians did not begin to accept the rumors of this chastity belt until the 18th and 19th centuries, as it showed that civilization was a lot better than “in the Middle Ages.” During the Renaissance, people were only too happy to believe that. The British Museum removed another chastity belt in 1996, because it turned out that it actually came from the 18th century.
Yet more symbolic chastity belts already existed in ancient Rome. The bride was put on a tunic with a rope to symbolically represent her chastity. The groom was then allowed to untie the knot on the wedding night to consume the wedding.
The chastity belts and cages you can buy nowadays focus on the excruciating erotic anticipation of putting yourself (or rather, your orgasm) in the hands of another. They are not intended to oppress women or men, but they are used in a mutual consent BDSM relationship. At least, that’s the intention.
If you want to buy a chastity toy, what should you keep in mind?
1. A cage or chastity belt
We know the chastity belt for people with a vagina. There are also chastity belts and chastity cages for people with a penis. A chastity device only covers the penis and the testicles and is intended to prevent the man from getting an erection. It is not very comfortable, but for some wearers that is precisely the intention.
A chastity belt is more like a pair of pants or briefs that are fastened around the hips of the wearer. You can put them on quite easily and also quickly off, if necessary (or allowed). A chastity belt is generally a bit more expensive to purchase than a cage.
2. How long should it be worn?
Chastity toys can be worn indefinitely, as long as you take them off every now and then to clean the body and the toy. But some chastity devices are meant to be worn a little shorter. Consider, for example, chastity belts that also cover the anus, making going to the toilet impossible. You can only wear those shortly. Other belts have the shape of a ‘jock strap’ so that the anus is free. So consider whether you want to wear the cage or the belt for a longer period of time, and pay attention to the design. The material is also important if you are considering wearing the chastity toy for a long time.
3. Different materials
Some materials are better suited to wear close to the skin than others. Your body excretes all kinds of fats and sweat. Leather cannot handle that very well, for example. On the other hand, leather is very beautiful to look at and it is also comfortable to wear. Leather is also often cheaper than steel, for example. Still, leather requires more maintenance. Leather is also not useful if you want to keep wearing it while urinating. On the other hand, steel cannot be adapted to your physique, unless you go for customization.
4. The fit
Some chastity toys are easy to adjust. So pay attention to how and at which points the chastity toy can be adjusted and whether it will fit your body shapes. This applies not only to chastity belts, but also to penis cages. You want a cage that fits the flaccid penis properly, without too much space. Buying a cage of the right size is not that easy at all. In fact, you don’t know which size is right until you try one. That’s why it’s important that you buy an adjustable penis cage the first time, such as the CB-6000, which come with rings of different diameters. The size of the cage itself is of less importance than the size of the back ring. If it is too large, the cage will slide off and if it is too tight it will pinch and obstruct blood flow. An adjustable cage is highly recommended for a beginner! Therefore, measure the size of your (flaccid) penis to get an idea of the size of the penis cage you need.
5. Should it be possible to orgasm?
A chastity toy is intended to prevent the wearer from having orgasm. But that works better with one toy than with another. If you want one that makes it absolutely impossible for the wearer to masturbate, find one that fits the body perfectly. Of course it also depends a bit on the behavior of the wearer. If the material is soft, some wearers manage to rub until they cum. But even if there is room to squeeze your fingers, that can be enough. That’s why there are chastity toys with pins on the inside to prevent friction that will make it possible to cum. You have to decide for yourself how much discomfort you are willing to take to avoid orgasm.
6. Read Reviews
You cannot return sex toys once you have tried them on. This also applies to chastity toys. Especially if you plan to purchase a more expensive toy, it is wise to read reviews. Make sure that the writer of the review provides sufficient details to substantiate his opinion. What is his or her build, how is the toy used? Does that correspond somewhat with what you are looking for and find important?
7. The design
It is important that a chastity toy does what it is meant to do: prevent the wearer from having an orgasm. A chastity toy is something that you wear for a long time, close to the skin. That is why it is also important that the design appeals to you and your partner. As effective as it is, if it’s an ugly thing, it doesn’t add to the fun.
8. Extra functionalities
The more expensive chastity belts often also have extra options. Consider, for example, the option to attach wrist cuffs to it. There are also chastity belts to which you can attach a dildo, so that it can also serve as a strap-on harness. As mentioned, you often only encounter this kind of thing on the more expensive belts, but it may be worth considering. Many of these extra options can make the game a lot more fun.
9. The disadvantage of metal
Metal is a wonderful material for chastity belts and cages. However, keep in mind that this can cause problems if you get to places where there is security. Do you have to go through a metal detector at the office, do you go shopping, or do you have to go through customs at an airport? Then wearing a metal chastity toy is not recommended. The locks can also be enough to trigger a metal detector. So, if you want to wear the chastity toy in public, take a toy made of plastic, silicone or leather. There are also disposable plastic locks (see below).
10. The lock
There are several ways to lock a chastity toy. Many people take a simple little metal padlock. Make sure you keep the key and that you have a spare key. Otherwise, you might have to enlist the help of a locksmith. A good alternative are plastic locks. These are numbered and look a bit like a zip tie. The only way to loosen these is to cut them. Because they are numbered, your partner can always check whether you are still wearing the same lock.
In a previous post we already gave more tips about the use of a chastity device.
As with anything, we recommend that you continue to use common sense. Be careful, have patience, use a little lube, build it up slowly, clean the toys well, take it off regularly (at least every few days) to cleanse yourself.
The choice of chastity toys is huge. Take the time to absorb all the differences. Pay attention to the 10 aspects that we have mentioned above and view the full range of chastity toys in our shop.
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