When the Netflix series Sex Education first aired, I was quite content about it. In fact, I called on everyone to watch the series. When season 2 was announced, I couldn’t wait to binge-watch the eight new episodes. And although this new season also still uses the same diversity in the cast, great soundtrack and cinematographic gimmicks, at times I mainly had my doubts about the content; at what the series is all about, namely the Sex Ed.
The criticism of season 1 of Sex Education
First of all, even in season 2, the series largely ignores the criticism that followed the first season, namely that some of the advice that the 16-year-old Otis gives is very cutting corners and that the series ultimately mainly revolves around the old stereotypes of high-school students. You know: the loser falls for the rebel girl, the gay boy is the sidekick of the loser, the cool girl is a softie on the inside, the homophobic is secretly gay, and so on. Difficult topics such as abortion and vaginal shaming are raised, but not really explored.
Yet the series was fresh and unique, making it a nice addition to the existing Netflix range for people of all ages and genders.
So, what is wrong with season 2?
After watching season 2, I got the feeling that Laurie Nunn, who wrote the series, still had a list of topics that she still wanted to deal with. These subjects are hardly casted into a story, and they are not really explored. The musical and quiz are reminiscent of the High School Musical series and offer little support for a good plot. It is predictable, cliché and full of stereotypes. Something that does not adorn the series.
I was particularly bothered by episode 6 of season 2. The subject that is central to this episode is ‘douching’, or anal rinsing. Anwar and Nick have agreed to have sex for the first time and Nick is worried because he does not know how to douche in preparation for anal sex. Otis is also overwhelmed by the question and calls in the help of his gay bestie and his boyfriend Rahim. At one point, Rahim says, “If you’re not ready to talk about having a shower with your boyfriend, you’re not ready to have his cock in your ass.“
If you’re not ready to talk about douching with your boyfriend, you’re not ready to have his cock in your ass
The first reason for me to be bothered by this episode is because it is a rather one-sided stereotyping of homophilia, which can be confusing for teenagers. The series assumes that it is normal for gay men to have anal sex. In fact, the series sets anal sex for homosexual men as the standard: ‘if you are going to have sex as a homosexual boy, then that is by definition anal sex’, seems to be the message.
Anal sex is the least favorite form of sex among gay men. The percentage of heterosexual men who enjoy anal sex is about the same.
This is not only incorrect [links to Dutch article], but can be a reason for many teenage boys who are still in the closet to doubt their orientation. This idée fixe leads to many misunderstanding and abuse. A study of 25,000 gay men showed that anal sex is the least favorite form of sex. Only one-third of the men surveyed had ever had anal sex. Other studies show that the percentage of heterosexual men who love anal sex is about the same. By putting the emphasis on ‘anal sex as the only form of gay sex’, this prejudice is further stigmatized.
Using an anal shower or enema is not without danger and often unnecessary
But what I found even more shocking, was that it was considered a given that anal sex should precede ‘anal douching‘. However, using an anal shower or enema is not without danger and often unnecessary. In general it is not necessary to clean yourself on the inside. Unless you are sick, your body is perfectly capable of cleansing itself. For many people it is therefore sufficient – before (anal) sex – to shower and wash externally with water and some mild soap. Your intestines will continue to fill with stools and after the defecation your intestines will be empty again. If you rinse your intestines excessively, your digestive system and intestinal function may become out of balance. The good bacteria, which ensure optimal digestion, will also wash away with an enema. This intestinal flora ensures that you absorb important nutrients. And even if you have used a flush, it is no guarantee that accidents will not occur. In addition, the series should focus on the use of a condom for anal sex. And a condom also ensures that the penis does not come into direct contact with poo.
Mythes of anale douches
So, once and for all:
- If you do not flush with an enema, then there is no reason to believe that you are contaminating yourself and your partner through or during anal sex. The rectum (the last part of your intestinal tract) is usually not filled with poo. If that is the case, you will have the urge to go, and in that case you’d better do that first. Normally there will be little or no poo in the rectum.
- Before anal sex, it is wise to prepare the anus with, for example, a thin toy or a finger, which you lubricate well in advance with lubricant. This is also a way to check if there are any leftover poo in the rectum.
- Even if you have used an enema, that is no guarantee that no poo will occur during anal sex.
- Using an enema too often is bad for your intestines. They can dry out, causing them to be damaged by anal sex. The result: bleeding and especially ‘ouch‘.
- A condom and lubricant are a much better friend during anal sex than an enema.
- It is incorrect that every partner expects you to have anal sex and it is even more incorrect that your partner may assume that you as the receiving party have extensively flushed with an enema beforehand.
Having said this; nor is it immediately discouraged to never use an anal douche. But if you do, do it in moderation and do not use chemical agents that can damage your intestines.