Lube! Perhaps the most underestimated product. It should be in every bedside table. Lube is great for manual sex (hand job, fingering) and vaginal sex (penis in vagina), but it is essential for anal sex! Unlike the vagina, the anus is not capable of self lubrication to reduce friction when penetrated. Irrespective of preparations you should take to get your partner ‘in the mood’, lack of lube might well be the most important reason why some people find anal sex unpleasant.
It is best to use a thicker lube for anal sex. The walls inside of the anus are much thinner than those of the vagina and do not get wet naturally. Without lube there is a risk of tearing the walls in the rectum (which is not only very unpleasant, but also brings an increased risk of STIs and STDs).
So, lube is a must for anal sex, independently of gender and preference, and whether you have anal sex with a penis or with a sex toy. And Pjur is perhaps one of the best brands when it comes to lube, so – yeah – I was willing to take this slippery stuff for a test drive.
Pjur Back Door Relaxing Silicone Anal Glide: what is so special about that?
This specific lube from Pjur is specially developed for anal sex. There are a couple of features that appeal to me. This is a silicone based lube (dimothicone and dimothiconol). According to Pjur it contains a higher concentration of silicone (compared to other Pjur products for anal sex). This makes this product suitable for ‘more intens anal sex’. The skin has the characteristic to absorb water. That is why water based lube dries rather quickly. Silicone based lube, like this one, doesn’t have to be re-applied that often, just because it stays on top of the skin. This has a relative disadvantage that it is a bit harder to wash off. The dimothiconol is actually kind of greasy.
Furthermore, this lube can also be used with latex condoms. When you are not in a monogamous relationship, condoms should be advised, because of the increased risks on STIs and STDs.
And, what I personally find very important, even though it says ‘relaxing’, this product doesn’t contain numbing ingredients like lidocain or benzocain. These are ingredients that make the skin numb and are often used in some ‘relaxing’ lubes. I am strongly against that, because it is best when your body tells you when it hurts (and you should probably slow things down to prevent damaging the anal walls). Instead, Pjur Backdoor Relaxing Silicone Glide contains jojoba and Amyris to relax the muscles and to soothen the skin. These are natural ingredients, that are often used in moisturizing cosmetic products.
There is not much unboxing to do with a lube. Yet, there are a few things that strike me when looking at the packaging of this Pjur product. It contains a number of logo’s of quality certificates, such as the German ‘Dermatest’ and the CE-mark.
But what surprised me (at first), was that the bottle has a screw cap and not some kind of dosing system. That was disappointing, until I read that Pjur actually gave it much thought. A pump system has the major disadvantage that bacteria can stay behind in the system, causing your lube to perish.
The ‘test drive’
Allthough Pjur Backdoor Relaxing Anal Glide contains a high concentration of silicone, it seems a little runny at first. But when you apply it to the skin, you will notice that in fact it feels soft as silk, without feeling sticky. On top of that, it is odorless and flavorless.
This lube from Pjur is probably the most durable one I know. The high concentration of silicone ensures it will last long, without drying or being absorbed by the skin. It also does’t lather. You will need much less than with other lubes. Even after 10 minutes it is still working fine.
My partner (female) was the receiving party, and she likes it a bit rough (even with anal sex). She confirmed a mild relaxing effect, but not very present.
Even with toys, this Pjur variant is very pleasant. We used it together with a glass plug, that was inserted much easier and faster than with other lubes that we normally used.
Pjur Backdoor Relaxing Silicone Anal Glide is perhaps the best lube for anal sex that I have ever tried. You need only a small amount, which makes it much more economic than you might think. Yes, it is a relaxing lube, but it is not very numbing.
The pros of Pjur Back Door Relaxing Anal Glide:
- Lasts long, is not absorbed by the skin and doesn’t need reapplying for a long time. A small bottle is enough for a long period of fun.
- You need only a small amount
- No numbing ingredients, but only natural additions (jojoba) for relaxation
- Can also be used under the shower, because it washes off less easy
- High quality silicone, also fit to use with (silicone) sex toys (although Pjur advises you to test it before applying, just in case)
- Dermatological tested
- The relaxing effect may be great for the receiving party, but can potentially have a negative effect on the person with the penis. That can also become effected. It will make you last longer (hooray), but it can also prevent you from getting ‘over the edge’.
- Pjur chose a screw cap in stead of a pump from a hygienic standpoint. However, this does make the bottle a bit slippery at times.
- The lube is watery, which makes you spill more easily and you sometimes use more than you need
- Because silicone based lubes are more greasy, it is not only harder to wash off (you may have to wash 2 or 3 times with warm water and some mild soap before it is gone), but it will also make stains in your clothes or bed linnen that will be difficult to remove.
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