Have you ever wondered if it is smart to masturbate before having a date or before expecting to have sex? Do you want to last longer, do you want to be less tense, or do you want to get in the mood? The short answer is that there are indeed advantages to masturbating beforehand. But it depends on how you do it.
Loaded gun
In the movie ‘There’s something about Mary (1998)’ with Cameron Diaz, there is a legendary scene in which Chris Elliot and Ben Stiller are talking to each other. Stiller is nervous about dating Mary (Diaz) and is advised to ’empty his pipes’ because he shouldn’t date with ‘a loaded weapon’.
Although the scene is meant to be hilarious, it does contain some truth. But there is also a danger. Because if you exhaust yourself too much, it can be counterproductive.
Preventing premature ejaculation?
Some men sometimes experience premature ejaculation. They think that masturbating before sex can help, because they will be less tense, because they will be less focused on ‘the act’. Men need time to recover and become aroused again after orgasm.
For some men, this recovery phase lasts a few hours, and for others it takes a whole day. That depends on age, sensitivity, the intensity of the orgasm and shape.
Either way, in men, sex drive decreases after ejaculation. While this can prevent you from premature ejaculation on your date, it can also mean that you will not feel like having sex or intimacy at all. And if you can still get aroused, the question is whether you can enjoy it during the second (or third) orgasm?
Rather try ‘edging’
If, as a man, you sometimes have problems with premature ejaculation, there are exercises you can do to last longer. This type of exercise is about getting to know your body and recognizing when you are about to cum. The trick is to recognize yourself when you get to the ‘point-of-no-return’; that moment when an orgasm is inevitable.
Once you recognize that point, you also know when it’s time to quit. Take it slower, slow down, don’t touch the most sensitive part of your penis (the ‘frenulum’), but shift your focus to the base of your penis. Or stop completely and take a short break.
If you practice this, you can also use the same technique when you are with a partner. Masturbating for sex in this case can help you get to know your body better and exercise to keep it going longer.
This technique is also known as ‘edging‘. Not only does it allow you to last longer, but once you come, you will notice that your orgasm is also much more intense (by procrastinating). It is a technique that is used by many tantra enthusiasts to experience an extremely heavy orgasm.
Masturbate to get in the mood
A second reason to masturbate before having sex has a completely different one. Especially people who have been in a relationship for some time recognize the situation that they don’t feel like having sex after a day of work. Or that their partner does not feel like having sex, perhaps for the same reason.
It is precisely in these moments that masturbating can help. Relax and have a sex toy. The extra stimulation of a sex toy can get you excited in no time. And if you let your partner watch, they might get so excited that the two of you are in the right mood quickly.
The art of masturbating before sex is that it should not exhaust you. It should put you in the right mood and it should teach you to delay your orgasm.
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depends on situation)))
ha, if you are going to your first, second or even 3rd date – I think its reasonable to be empty))))