Although a threesome is high on the wish list of most men, the question remains: how can I get my (girl)friend to do it?
Although a threesome is high on the wish list of most men, the question remains: how can I get my (girl)friend to do it?87.3% of all men (and 57.9% of all women) have had fantasies about a threesome. Unfortunately, 93.7% will never do it, simply because they do not know how to handle it. We’ve summed up everything you need to know about a ménageà trois. Before you know it, you can have a threesome. Yes, you too!
What is a threesome?
A threesome is sex with three persons at the same time. Sometimes a threesome is associated with a married couple that want to spice up their sex life. A ménage à trois is a relationship (literally a household of three persons) and therefore goes even a step beyond that. For many people it would be sufficient to have sex with two other people, even for once. But, how do you actually organize a threesome?
Different types of threesomes
How many types of threesomes would you think exist? Two? Think again! It seems there are only two mixed variants: The kind with two women and one man, and the kind with two men and one woman. But there are some more variants:
MFM: A straight woman with two straight men. The men only interact with the woman.
FMF: A straight man with two straight women. The women only interact with the man.
MMF: A bisexual man, a gay or bisexual man and a straight woman. The men also interact.
FFM: A bisexual woman, a bisexual or gay woman and a straight man. The women also interact.
In many threesomes there is one person the center of attention. That’s why it is important that you discuss clearly what it is you have in mind when you talk about a threesome with your partner. Before you know it, your girlfriend only has eyes for the other woman, while you had in mind that they would both ‘do’ you. For the sake of convenience, we assume that you are a man and you want to have a threesome with your girlfriend and another woman.
Jealousy
Greta Garbo had a relationship with Ernest Hemmingway and D.H. Lawrence. That went well. But it won’t be the first time that a sex fantasy about a threesome results in a fight. Jealousy is often the cause. Only when you are at the same page and have the same expectations, understanding, and honesty it can become a success. In fact, a threesome can make your relationship stronger. Still, often women cannot withstand the complexity of a relation that consists of three persons than men.
The possibilities
In a threesome, positions are possible that are otherwise unthinkable. Think of a sandwich or DP (double penetration), oral and penetration at the same time, a four hand massage, oral by two mouths, a kiss with three tongues, … well, you get it, right? Let your fantasy run wild.
If you want to know how to arrange a threesome, you should know that attraction is important,
but again, not the most important. First of all, all the people involved in the threesome must want it. No one should do it under duress, out of fear or reluctance. Be careful when suggesting it, don’t put pressure on it and act maturely. Test the waters with an indirect question to find out what the interests of the
other person.
How to convince your partner
How to convince your partnerIn order to have a threesome, you must find a way to convince your partner to push sexual boundaries. If your girlfriend is bisexual you have an advantage, because she might pick up another woman for her own pleasure. The challenge is to be part of that. The best parties are organized by two women, that invite you to be part of it. The most pleasure and the least effort. Women are different than men. A woman that is open to the idea can get weak just by the thought of being pleased by a woman and a man at the same time. For those woman, you and a female friend are the grand prize.
The tough thing is, that men are not able to organize a threesome. That’s done by the girls. Even if you think you can arrange that, it will only succeed if the women are into it. In fact, they must have the feeling it was their own idea.
Se here’s what you should do:
- Tell her you’d like to watch while she is having sex. Many women are ‘in’ for some experimentation. When you have sex with her, talk to her and imply stuff. Tell her for example how hot she is and how much you would like to watch. At a certain point she will either reject the thought, or start asking questions. Be open to about everything and say yes to everything. Even if she says “would you mind if I do it with another man and you can watch us?” Her desires will be the number one priority and she can take the initiative to approach someone.
- Never take the initiative, but always take the initiative. We told you earlier that your partner should take the initiative. If she is flirting with another woman of man, and this seems a contradiction, she will expect you to see the signals and pursue. So make sure you are near when it happens.
- Lick like Lassie. When you are with two woman, practice a lot of oral seks before you start penetrating either of them. Always give the same amount of attention to both women. Show them you are a giver, before you will receive.
- Ejaculate with your own partner. Especially if you are not able to have multiple orgasms, make sure your semen is addressed to your partner. She might be disappointed otherwise.
How to pick up threesome material?
How to pick up threesome material?The best places to pick up a so called unicorn are:
The internet. Look at datingsites or place your own advert. There are several newsgroups for swingers. Even Twitter is a good place to start.
Erotic fairs.
Holiday. Believe it or not, but there are hotel resorts for like-minded people. The most well known is Hedonism on Jamaica. But also at other well known holiday destinations there are enough people looking for a threesome; Places like Ibiza, Cap d’Agde, Mykonos and Lesbos, Brazil, Thailand (duh), Mardi Gras in Texas, etc.
Friends. Take a good look at your closest friends. There might be a person that would’t mind joining you.
Clubs, bars, single bars, gay bars. You should have thought of this one yourself.
Good luck and have fun. Let us know if you got lucky.
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