There are many ways to reach orgasm. And you don’t always have to use your hands. That sounds obvious, but there are also quite a few less obvious ways to have an orgasm without hands than you might think. Curious? Then read on and get inspired.
A ‘hands free’ orgasm, what is that about?
If you take the term ‘hands-free’ literally, then it is the case with any form of inducing an orgasm that does not involve hands. But what it actually means, is a form of sex with yourself or your partner where the emphasis is more on using other body parts to reach a climax.
So, if you’re not using your hands, that counts. A hands-free orgasm can include using sex toys, energy, breathing techniques, household items, other body parts, or just your imagination. And if you really want a hands-free orgasm, raise the bar. Choose a technique where you or your partner really don’t use the hands. Not even to hold on to anything.
Why would you?
Not using your hands forces you to be more creative. You have to think about new and different experiences and you have to experiment with new techniques. As a result, you will get to know your body better and you will be better able to understand what you like and what you don’t.
You may also discover other erogenous zones.
Hands-free orgasm techniques
My first real erotic experience I can remember was lying on my stomach on the couch as a kid with one leg over the edge of the seat. As a result, I felt the pressure of the edge of the pillow against my crotch. By making gentle hip movements I felt the excitement grow.
You can also do this technique with your clothes on. For example, take a pillow and press your crotch against it. Or row against the tip of a pillow. Find a piece of furniture that you can comfortably lie on and rub your gender against it.
You can also look for things that vibrate, such as a washing machine or a speaker. Sit on it for some extra stimulation.
Dry humping with your partner
Dry humping is having sex with your clothes on. You choose a position where both partners rub each other’s sex against each other, through the clothes. You can do that in any position you can do “for real”. And with a little practice, you can both cum from the friction, even though there is no penetration involved. Part of the excitement of dry fucking is due to not ging ‘all the way’.
Or you take it a step further and rub against each other without clothes, but also without penetration. The woman takes the man’s penis between her legs. She closes her legs and clamps the penis between them. By making fuck movements the penis slides along the clitoris and labia of the woman.
A well-known technique for doing this is the so-called ‘scissors’, where you scissor the legs together and rub with the sexes against each other.
But … No hands!
Playing with water
Running water is an excellent source of stimulation. With water nearby, there is always an opportunity to help yourself to an orgasm. You can easily use a tap, a shower head and even the garden hose as a sex toy. Without hands!
Get creative with the shower head or the bath tap. Aim the water jet on your erogenous zones. The water jets are great to get yourself excited (or to get off).
The nipples are an important erogenous zone for both women and men. Yet they sometimes seem a bit of a neglected orphan. And that’s a shame. Because the nipple (or the nipple areola mammae complex) is an area with more than 800 nerve endings.
Some people are able to get off by stimulating just the nipples. If you’ve ever experienced a ‘nipplegasm’, try inducing it without hands.
Try giving oral sex without using your hands. If you normally use your hands or fingers, don’t do that. In fact, let your hands be tied behind your back and then spoil your partner with your mouth.
You can also use sex toys without hands. Place a vibrator on the bed, or clamp it between your legs and experience the pressure and vibrations that you cannot create with your hands. A wand vibrator is ideal for this.
Some toys are even specially made for hands-free use, such as internally portable toys (like the legendary Lush), toys that you can put in your panties, or toys that can be controlled remotely (like almost all toys from We-Vibe).
Holders are also available for some toys, so that you can attach the toy to the bed or shower wall, for example. There are also dildos with a suction cup, which you can attach to smooth surfaces.
Many men can achieve a hands-free orgasm by massaging their prostate with a P-spot buttplug.
Fantasy and porn movies and audio
You can also have an orgasm just by thinking about sex, watching it, or listening to it. Research has shown that thinking about sex can sometimes feel like you are actually living it.
Fantasizing about sex will help you have an orgasm without hands. You can also reinforce the fantasies by, for example, talking to your partner about your fantasies. Dirty talk is very stimulating for many people.
Watching porn also helps to increase arousal. In fact, there is a ton of hands-free porn out there, should you need a little more inspiration.
If you are less visual, you can also listen to porn. By listening to a voice, your imagination fills in the rest. More and more audio porn can be found on the internet.
Tantric sex and meditation
Tantra is a technique from India. It is a way to be intertwined with another and to be in contact with each other on a deeper level. For this you use breathing techniques, slow movements, awareness. Deliciously ecstatic together for hours. You lust and transcend yourself. Two bodies that merge into one, that’s tantra sex. This often does not involve direct stimulation of the genitals. Use all your senses for this. This can be done through prolonged eye contact, for example, or a shiatsu massage (but without hands, remember ?!).
Meditation and breathing are important in this form of hands-free orgasms. The goal is to get into a tantric state and immerse yourself in a sexual fantasy. Because the meditation ensures that you become extremely relaxed, you can better come into contact with your erotic energy.
Breathing and energy
A specific form of tantric sex is Orgasmic breathing. In that case, you are going to do very conscious breathing exercises that lead to sexual arousal.
By letting your energy flow through your entire body you can even achieve a ‘full body’ orgasm.
With an energetic orgasm you disconnect the orgasm from the physical experience. You may be able to come a few times with physical contact (some people only succeed once), you can also learn to induce energetic orgasms. You can have such orgasms much more often than physical orgasms. You can even learn to have such an orgasm without sexual contact.
BDSM & kink
BDSM in particular is about experiencing physical sensations, which are not necessarily sexual, but which can lead to erotic tension.
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