The prostate is a male organ, that is often compared to the female G-spot. Stimulating it the right way, doesn’t just feel really great, it is also very healthy. There are many massage devices especially for prostate or P-spot stimulation. But which one is the best for you or your partner?
If you have a penis, you will also have a prostate
The prostate is a gland the size of a walnut. It is on the ‘root’ of the penis, just below the bladder. IN order to massage the prostate, you will have to enter the rectum (anus). The prostate produces liquid that is added to the sperm. By contracting it prevents sperm to flow into the bladder.
By massaging the prostate, it will release the stored liquid and cleans itself, so to speak. Regular massages will prevent prostatis (inflammation), prostate cancer, genital pain and pain while urinating. Above that it will enhance the erectile function and increase the amount of semen and circulation.
But evenly important: by massaging the P-spot during jerking off, fucking, or a blow job, the man will get an incredible orgasm!
How to use a prostate (P-spot) stimulator
A prostate stimulator or P-spot toy, looks a bit different then any other ordinary dildo or vibrator. While you may use them any way you want, the shape of a P-spot massager is specially designed to stimulate the prostate.
A prostate massager is not intended to be used in an in and out going movement. Most men enjoy it most when it is kept in place and just slightly moved.
Many beginners enjoy it when they are laying on their side when they first use a prostate stimulator. Make sure your are completely relaxed ad take your time to get used to the feeling of your new toy.
Use plenty of lube, preferably one that is intended for anal use, like Pjur Analyse me! As soon as the toy has been inserted, make sure you apply soft pressure to the prostate. You might want to push the toy in, but often it is better to let your sphincters do the work. By contracting and relaxing the sphincters the toy will get into position. This way you can stimulate your prostate without having to use your hands.
What prostate stimulator?
How do you choose a prostate stimulator that works for you? The first time you will choose one, you may get discouraged by the sheer amount of toys. That’s why we give you ten tips that will help you pick the right one:
As a beginner you must first determine what size is the best for you. Although the shape is more important than the size, you will notice that there are big differences in size. Your first prostate stimulator should be much no thicker than 2 or 3 centimeters. That should be sufficient. First try with a finger what feels nice. If your not sure, start with one that is slightly thinner, because when it is to thick it will be less comfortable. The Dr. Joel for example is only 1.5 cm in diameter.
2. No hands
The holy grail for sex toy designers is to make a toy that will have you orgasm without using your hands. That works best f you don’t have to use in and out going movements, but if you can make light massaging movements. Look for a design that fits that kind of use.
You might not achieve an orgasm the first time by using the toy hands free.
3. The handle
The part of the prostate stimulator that will be inserted looks pretty much the same for most devices (with a curve). Bu the handle is often very different. Some toys have some kind of ring and others will have a flat bases. Which one you choose depends on how you plan to use it. A ring is easy to grab and move the toy, while a flat bases is easier when you lie on your back and use the toy hands free, or when you want to use the toy hidden under your clothes.
4. Outside the bedroom
A butt-plug is also used outside of the bedroom. many people enjoy wearing one when they visit public places. And some men like to wear a prostate stimulator, in stead of a butt-plug.
If you want to wear your prostate massager under your clothes, pay attention to the design of the handle.
5. Vibrate or not?
Not everyone enjoys the vibrations to their prostate. And not all toys can. But if you do like the stimulation with vibrations, there is plenty to choose from.
A number of prostate stimulators have some kind of whole in which you can attach an (included) vibrator. This black stimulator is a good example. If you are sure you will absolutely love the vibrations, consider getting one with a build in motor, because they are often more powerful so you will be able to feel it more intense. It also comes in handy when your vibrator has a remote control. A good P-spot with vibrator and remote is this one. If you are really into powerful vibrations, the LELO Bruno is recommended!
6. Stimulate the perineum
The area between your anus and the testicles is called the perineum. That is a very sensitive area, that often goes hand in hand with massaging the prostate. That is why most P-spot toys have some kind of protrusion that will do the trick. If you are not into that, make sure you buy one without that feature.
7. G-spot dildo
Although a dildo is not considered to be a good prostate massager, a well designed G-spot dildo or vibrator could replace the prostate massager. Especially when it can be used as a strap-on by your partner.
8. A P-spot stimulator and cock ring combined
If you would like to use the prostate stimulator while fucking, you might want to decide something extras, by choosing one with a cock ring attached to it. This way, you combine the advantages of prostate massages with that of a cock ring (that will enhance your erection). Take a look at this one or this one that can also vibrate.
Most prostate stimulators are made of silicone. That is a very pleasant and easy to clean material. It feels soft and natural. But you might want to consider a metal prostate stimulator. Metal has a number of benefits. It feels a bit cold and it is very hard and heavy, and you can easily clean it in the dishwasher. There are also metal prostate stimulators with a cock ring.
10. Read reviews
Before you make your choice, look for reviews. There are plenty of reviews online from independant sex toy testers, that often describe in a detailed manner what you can expect. Do bear in mind if the sex toy tester was a beginner or a well experienced user. Someone with a lot of experience may look for other qualities than a novice.
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