Many people have a bucket list; a list of things to do before they die. Some people however, have a fucketlist. This includes sexual acts that they would like to do once in their lifetimes. Usually, this is not a list of vanilla stuf. And that is why we discuss the most special things that people have on their fucketlist. In this episode we will discuss ‘squirting’.
What is squirting?
When a woman has a gushing orgasm, it is also called ‘squirting’. Strangely, the whole phenomena of the female ejaculation has never been thoroughly studied. Usually it is described as ‘forcefully secrete small amounts of fluid (varying from 3 to 50 ml).
The opinion of what it is and where it comes from still differs. And this controverse is being fed by some women who claim that they’ve actually did not orgasm when they’ve experienced squirting. It also isn’t exactly clear how many women are capable of squirting, but it is assumed that about 40% of all women has squirted once.
The general attention for the female ejaculating orgasm has increased over the last few decades and it has even become a porn genre of its own.
Squirting? How to …?
Some women will be able to forcefully ejaculate a large amount of fluid, by stimulating the G-spot properly. Sometimes that happens spontaneous, and other women say they can help this process by squeezing their pelvic floor muscles.
Either way, often it takes long term and powerful stimulation. For the person who is trying to induce it, it is not uncommon to be an extremely tiresome activity, that can be rather demanding for the biceps. To prevent you from having muscle pain for a few days, it might be a good idea to use a sex toy for G-spot stimulation. The person that undergoes this, can experience an extremely sensitive release.
It is also not uncommon that a woman who has just experienced a gushing orgasm, will be able to have a second, third, or even eighth squirting orgasm. Each time, large amounts of fluids will be released. That is why it is recommended to cover your valuable bed or couch with something that is fluid repellent.
Why would you want to squirt?
Women that have squirting on their fucketlist, say that they would like to experience it, because it seems like the superlative degree of an orgasm. Women that have already experienced it, describe it as something extremely intense. The orgasm slowly builds up, until the outburst follows. It is this force and explosiveness that some women would like to experience. “Just because it can, for science“, a Twitter friend tells us.
Other women would like to experience the equivalent of the male orgasm. “It just gives me the feeling of power to be able to ejaculate like a man. The visual aspect of that large amount of fluid, as some kind of result of rough sex, makes it a very hot experience“, a 44 year old women explains to us.
All of the media attention, makes women curious. “I’ve seen it so much in porn and I even read about it in Cosmo of all places, so now I just have to know what it feels like“, a 32 year old women tells us. “It’s just pure curiosity.“
Why would a man like to make a women squirt?
Squirting is also on the fucketlist of a lot of men. They would love to make a woman (their woman) ejaculate. Why? There are a number of reasons. Some men love to make their women enjoy sex and a squirting orgasm seems like the ultimate form. For them, it is extremely erotic to see the woman totally surrender to her pleasure until her body shakes and ejaculates. After all, “when a woman is turned on she gets wet. So if she squirts, she must be extremely turned on”, they reason.
And other men see it as a form of submission. They prefer to have themselves squirted upon as a form of humiliation.
Is that really necessary?
The quest for the ejaculating female orgasm as some kind of ultimate goal, comes across as a bit forced. It emphasizes orgasms as the only goal of sex. Especially for people that have difficulty orgasming, this pressure is very unpleasant. It can be great to enjoy seks, without the competitive aspect, the ‘hafta’.
Women that squirted spontaneous, sometimes point out that they were freaked out at first, because they sometimes believed that they accidentally pied while having sex. But because the fluid is transparent and odorless, and their partner kinda liked it, the hesitation disappears and they are able to enjoy it more.
A squirting orgasm can be an ultimate expression of pleasure, but it should never be a goal in itself. Don’t force it. But if you want to try it, there is nothing against that.
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