In our “fucket list” series, we cover men’s and women’s fantasies when it comes to sex. A fucket list is something like a bucket list, but in the area of sex. So it contains acts that you want to have done once before you die. This time we discuss ‘ejacuate in panties’.
What is it about?
This fantasy involves one person having a ejaculation in another person’s panties while they are still wearing the panties!
To make it more visual, you can think of the following scenario:
I was walking through the woods with my girlfriend. We both felt like having sex, but we couldn’t find a place where we had enough privacy to do whatever we felt like doing. Instead, we retreated into the bushes. She pulled her jeans down a very little bit, took my boner out of my pants and pushed my glans against her clit. This is how we began to “dry fuck” a little. Because my glans was rubbing against her clit, she had an orgasm pretty soon and between her thighs it was nice and tight. I too had an orgasm and my cum ended up in her panties. Then she put her panties back on and pulled up her pants. We continued our walk knowing that she had soaked panties.
Alternative: masturbate
In all kinds of forums on the Internet you can find stories of men masturbating in a woman’s panties. Usually, these are young men who take the panties of their mother, aunt or sister out of the laundry basket to masturbate on them (for lack of anything else). Often this is to the great disgust of the roommates involved, who see this as a form of incest or even abuse.
But there are also women who sell their (used) panties on the Internet, so that men can use their panties to masturbate on. These women sometimes have a considerable side income from this.
Why is that hot?
As with many fetishes – but especially this one – it is very different for the person who ejaculates than for the person whose panties are involved. And, as with many fetishes, there are very different reasons for finding something horny.
First of all, there are people (men and women) who have a kind of fetish for semen. You can think of a man’s sperm as an ultimate form of connection. If you collect your sperm in a condom, then you could say that you are not giving yourself completely. That you are holding something back. Semen (or other bodily fluids) can then work as a form of ‘bonding’. This kind of ‘fluid bonding’ is something that can play an important role between partners in a steady (kink) relationship.
Sperm has become almost a taboo subject due to venereal diseases and unwanted pregnancies. And things that are taboo very quickly become particularly attractive and horny. Playing with semen (cum play, felching, cream pie) has therefore become kinky rather than normal. Perhaps the most extreme form of this is bukakke.
Have you ever wondered where the name of the band Limp Bizkit comes from? Another word for a soggy cookie that gets drenched (for example, when you dip it in tea) is a limp biscuit. It is also a variation of bukkake, in which a number of men cum over a cookie, which is then eaten by someone else (or by the man who cums last).
Women can also have a sperm fetish. In general, there are three types of women: those who have no special attachment to semen and are indifferent (about 60% of women), those who find semen really terribly dirty (about 20%), and those who really love semen ( the remaining 20%). This can be part of a BDSM game, where wearing panties full of semen is humiliating. On the contrary, it can also be empowering to have the partner come not ‘into’ you, but into ‘the next best thing’: your panties.
Men who secretly masturbate in a woman’s panties have very different reasons for doing so. For them, the other’s panties are a kind of surrogate vulva: the closest thing to a real vulva. For some, it doesn’t even matter whose panties it is, but rather the idea that your sperm is getting close to and vagina or even to an object that has been close to a vagina (i.e., panties).
Tips for sperm fetishists
Ejaculating in someone else’s panties is a sub-variant of a semen fetish. And as you can read above, there are again many variations of this and motivations for it. If you want to implement this, consider the following:
- If you would like to cum in someone’s panties, or if you would like someone to cum in yours, make it a subject of discussion. Tell your partner what you would like and what turns you on about it.
- If your partner asks you to perform this fetish – and it is not immediately your thing – remember that your partner has confided in you with something very intimate. So don’t reject it immediately, but ask what he or she finds so exciting about it? Consider whether there is a form in which you can accommodate each other.
- Also consider that semen in panties, which comes into contact with the vagina immediately afterwards, can lead to pregnancy and an STD. So for all sperm fetishes, be sure you have taken other precautions (such as contraception and STD testing).
Finally, a video
To get an even better idea for this fetish, check out the collection of videos below:
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