A strap-on is a two piece sex toy that includes a dildo. And that is nice for lesbian sex, but many men also enjoy having anal sex with a woman (pegging). Especially if the man’s prostate is massaged.
A strap-on consists of two parts: the harness and the dildo. Below we give you some tips for choosing the right harness and accessories.
How to choose a harness?
Material
Leather is always a good material for a harness. It becomes softer and more comfortable as it gets older. Leather feels pleasant against your skin and can easily be cleaned with leather oil or leather cleaner, or simply with a damp cloth. However, leather should not get wet. A leather armor can give you years of pleasure. But you cannot disinfect leather and it will stretch a bit, so you will certainly have to adjust the harness a few times in the beginning.
Nylon and fabric harnesses are affordable and can sometimes even be cleaned in the washing machine. They may not be as comfortable as leather, but you can wear them in the shower or in the bath. These types of harnesses are also light in weight.
A vinyl or silicone armor can have both a plastic appearance and a leather-like look. Anyway, they are beautiful and durable. Vinyl is flexible, can withstand water and can be cleaned with soap and water.
Style
A single strap has one strap between your legs like a string. This belt can exert (pleasant) pressure on the genitals of the wearer. You can also exercise more control. But not everyone likes that strap between their legs. And the strap gets in the way if you also want to receive while you give (so if you want to get fucked while fucking, get it?).
Two-strap harnesses are worn like pants, with a strap around each leg. Many people find that more pleasant, but they require more practice. Sometimes you have to adjust the straps if you do a different position. But the genitals of the wearer remain accessible.
A low-riding harness means that the ring through which the dildo passes is somewhat lower on the pubic area. This makes it a little easier to maneuver and it offers pressure in the right places.
There are also harnesses that are more around the leg than around the hips. That works well if you want to sit still and your partner mounts your leg. This way two women can satisfy each other if they each use such device. But you can also tie it around a cushion or chair for self-gratification without hands.
Then there are the harnesses that can hold two or three dildos. One penetrates the wearer and the other the partner.
Some harnesses have a material behind the dildo (padding), so that the dildo does not touch the skin of the wearer. Some people prefer that, but others want to feel the pressure and the vibration (if you use a vibrator). That is personal. A harness with such a back piece is especially nice if you use a dildo that also has a scrotum (balls).
There are also harnesses with a sort of pouch in which you can put a vibrating egg for example.
Straps or rings
Harnesses with D-rings (through which the straps go through) are easy to tighten and taken off quickly. Sometimes, however, the straps release too easily, so you have to practice how you can secure the straps so that they do not slip.
Straps with a buckle are beautiful and do not come off easily. They stay in place and once you know which hole you need, then it is easy each time you use it.
There are also harnesses with D-rings at the legs and buckles at the waist. This is especially useful if you want to adjust quickly and often during sex.
The ring through which the dildo passes is called the O-ring. Some harnesses have a permanent ring through which you can insert different dildos. But some larger dildos sometimes do not fit. So pay attention to the dimensions of the O-ring and the dildo you want to use. Sometimes the dildo is attached to the harness.
How to choose a dildo?
Dildos come in all sorts of sizes, colors and shapes. Which should you choose?
Size
The most important thing about a dildo is the size. We have seriously heard that a woman recommended another woman to try different vegetables in order to choose the right size. That is of course an option. But if you don’t know what size you should be, then you are probably still quite new with the concept of dildo. And in that case an average size (not too large) is a good choice. For anal you probably want a bit thinner (2-2.5 cm) and for vaginal a slightly thicker (3-3.5 cm) to start with.
Shape
A dildo with a curvature is nice for G-spot stimulation or prostate stimulation. If there are too many bumps and curves, a dildo is usually not very pleasant for strap-on sex.
Material
Whatever you do, never buy a jelly sex toy. It contains plasticizers that can be carcinogenic. Different materials have different advantages and disadvantages. Softskin feels nice, but is more difficult to clean because it is a porous material. Silicone dildos are popular because they are flexible and can be supplied in all sorts of price ranges, types and sizes. We ourselves are very pleased with glass and metal dildos.
Strapless strap-on
There is also a whole range of strapless strap-ons available. These are also a kind of strap-on dildos, but you don’t have to attach them with straps. They consist of a part that enters the vagina and stays in place due to the curved U-shape.
At least that is the intention. Whether or not the strapless strap-on dildo actually stays put depends on the position and the force with which you hump.
Many of these ‘strap-on’ dildos also have the ability to vibrate in different places (for example, the part that comes into contact with the clitoris).
Buying a strap-on
If you buy a strap-on for the first time, go for a not too expensive model that you can easily adjust. Take a small to medium sized dildo. Once you have some experience, it is easier to determine what works best for you. A good beginner’s set, for example, is this set with compact silicone dildo. The harness is easy to adjust, so it always fits well (the maximum hip circumference is 110 cm).
