Have you ever fantasized about being tied up, but are you having a hard time making heads or tails of the information about it on the web? Look no further. NBRplaza did the research and we will tell you all there is to learn about the art of bondage.
Bondage
Bondage is the collective term for restrain the freedom to move, for example by binding or tying, in order to get (sexually) aroused. Although there are very little trustworthy researches, it is estimated that about three quarters of all men and women like the idea. Why? The opinions differ. Often, it is said that it is nice to hand over control and fully commit to someone else. Others say pain, or light pressure, gives pleasure. Nancy Friday had a theory that people are often told as a child that sex is ‘naughty’ or ‘bad’. It is a desire that one should not give in to. By being tied up, it creates some kind of excuse: “I couldn’t help it, because I was tied up.”
Safety first
Just like at sports and hobby’s, it is important to be aware of the risks and dangers of bondages. So let’s start with some dont’s:
If you have the idea that you can practice a little bondage on your one night stand, we strongly advise you to think otherwise. Only if you completely trust the other person, you will allow yourself to be tied up. Deal?
Further more it is ill-advised to practice bondage when you are under the influence of drugs or alcohol. The neck and throat are an absolute no-go area, where no pressure should be put. It is also not wise to leave someone alone that is bound, because before you know it, they might want to try to get untied and get strangled in your ropes. A typical case of ‘uh, oh’.
Never keep someone tied in the same position. Change position after max a half hour. Regularly ask if the person is still OK and carefully watch if and how the person responds.
Safe word
Especially if your bondage activities are accompanied with a role playing game, it is a good idea (and customary in ‘the scene’) to agree upon a safe word. This is some code that means that you’ve had enough. Words like ‘stop’ and ‘no’ often don’t work in a role playing game (“oh, no, please don’t, because I like it”). And if you apply a gag in the tied up person’s mouth, talking is restricted. Most used safe words are ‘blue’ (or any color of choice) or ‘mercy’. Or humming a small riddle, snapping your fingers, or dropping an object (literally throwing the towel).
Categories:
Bondage can be categorized:
- Tie together, for example: binding hands or legs together.
- Spreading, hands and legs spread, for example like an X on the bed (the starfish position).
- Binding to an object (chair, table, or even to a driving car).
- Hanging/suspension (to the ceiling with the toes barely touching ground, for example).
- Restraining movement (handcuffs, harness).
- Packing (so called mummification).
Materials:
You can use almost anything, depending on your preferences of materials. Rope is useful, because it is flexible, but it could also cut. Hardware (chains, cuffs) are cold but also rough. Clothing (straitjackets, scarfs) can be very suitable as well. Put panties in his mouth as a gag, for instance. Leather and rubber are also often used. And there is a huge market in specific bondage materials (bondage tables, spreader bars) for if you have any money left to spend.
For the beginner
If you are relatively new, there are some simple ways to apply bondage:
- Tie the hands together (behind the back, for example, with furry handcuffs)
- Attach the hands to a belt around the waist
- Spread the hands and feet to the bed (X)
- Tie the hands to the ankles (hogtie)
As a beginner, we advice you to use soft materials that you already may have at home. Think scarfs. Or use materials that can break easily, like a cheap chain. To be fair, the bondage is in that case more of a symbolic idea, because the other person can brake free quite easily without much of an effort. You could also try to not remove clothes entirely. A pair of jeans that has been pulled down just under the knees can be as effective, as is a sweater that is still attached to the arms.
There are a number of ‘starter kits’ available. Usually it is a box that contains a couple of furry handcuffs or a pair of wrist and ankle cuffs. Personally we advice you to get a bondage kit with Velcro: they are easy to attach and to untie, but the tied up person cannot get free by themselves. ~gnagna~
Japanese Bondage
Next to the more ‘effective’ use of bondage, there are also variants that are more aesthetic. The knots and the way someone is toed up is so beautiful, that it is almost a waste to untie them.
In short: yes, bondage can be fun, exiting and great to see. What more would you want? Like you have something else to do this weekend!
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