With some regularity, we check what search terms are being used to find our blog. This week we noticed the search term ‘anal orgasm’. If you search for that, you come up with this blog post, about prostate stimulation. But an anal orgasm, what is it and does it exist at all? And is it also available to people with a vulva?

An anal orgasm … a lesson in anatomy

An anal orgasm refers to cumming by stimulating the anus, whether or not in combination with stimulating other erogenous zones, such as the penis or clitoris. To understand how to experience orgasm through anal sex, you need to know first of all the anatomy. And this is different in men than in women.

The anus has a large amount of nerve endings. These nerves are connected to the pudendal nerve. This is the same nerve that also runs through the clitoris (in women) and through the penis (in men). Therefore, touching the anus causes an indirect form of stimulation of the sex. 

The anus has two rings of muscle. Over the outer ring we have control and with it we prevent our defecation. The inner ring is controlled by the autonomic nervous system. If you penetrate the anus, in women it is picked up by the same nerves that run through the vagina and cervix. Consequently, some women can become extremely aroused when they are fucked in the ass (we’ll just say it like it is).

In men, anal penetration can stimulate the prostate. This causes an immediate sensation that can trigger an intense orgasm.

Some men and women are capable of reaching an (overwhelming) orgasm by anal stimulation alone. Others find anal stimulation especially nice for “in addition” and also need direct stimulation of the clitoris or penis.

The psychological effect

Various studies show that about one-third of all people (men, women, straight and gay) like anal stimulation. As you can read above, this is partly explained by the sheer physical properties of the anus. But sex largely also takes place between the ears. We wrote about that earlier in this blog post. For many people, taboo plays a role in arousal, as does the animalistic raw aspect of anal sex.

Above all, make use of the mental aspect. Talk to each other, strike up “dirty talk,” and build tension.

Maar het is vooral de combinatie van het lichamelijke en psychische die het voor veel mensen onweerstaanbaar maakt.

But(t) how?

You don’t achieve an anal orgasm without proper preparation. Whereas with fingering and jerking off you can “just get started,” anal sex requires you to be properly aroused. Only then will your muscles be relaxed and you will find the slight pain of anal penetration pleasurable. So take the time to relax and get yourself or your partner in the mood. It is difficult, if not impossible, to orgasm if you feel guilty, embarrassed, or if you feel inhibitions for any reason.

Start by gently touching and applying light pressure. Unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce the body’s own fluids. Therefore, always use a lubricant.

You can easily stimulate the anus with the tip of your finger. Beware of sharp nails, as the anus wall is thin and is easily damaged. You can also use a butt plug or anal beads. Always start with something narrow (the thickness of a finger) and make sure that toys you use anally always have a thick end. This prevents the toy from flopping all the way in and you end up ending up in the emergency room.

Many people find it extremely intense when you pull the butt plug or anus balls out of the anus at the moment of orgasm. The sudden stimulation of the nerves intensifies the orgasm.

If you want to go a step further, you can use anal vibrators or (especially for men) a prostate stimulator.

Licking and fucking

Many people can’t bear the thought: licking the anus. But contrary to what many people think, the anus just tastes like skin. And for the receiving party, it is a wonderful feeling. Moreover, it is a perfect way to wet the anus, which facilitates penetration.

If you want to penetrate your partner’s anus with your penis, make sure you have enough foreplay as well. Only if your partner is in the mood will it be painless and pleasurable. Build it up slowly and start moving only when you are fully inside (the glans should have passed the sphincter muscle) and your partner is completely relaxed. Always use plenty of lubricant. Let the receiving party set the rhythm.

An anal orgasm for vulva owners

Despite vulva owners not possessing a prostate, anal orgasm is also possible for them. This is mainly because the wall between the vagina and the anal canal is very thin. Through anal penetration, you can therefore indirectly stimulate the G-spot and the A-spot. Therefore, for those who can (easily) cum through penetration of the vagina, an orgasm through anal penetration is not inconceivable.

Double penetration

By stimulating several erogenous zones simultaneously, an anal orgasm becomes easier to achieve. For example, by simultaneous vagina and anal penetration (a double penetration). Because something is in the anus, you increase the pressure on the G-spot of that which is in the vagina. This makes the penetration of the vagina feel more intense. It also gives an extra feeling of “being filled. It can also be nice for the giving party because the penis rubs against something.

You can do double penetration with two partners at the same time, of course, but also with one dildo and one partner, or with two dildos.

How it feels

Men and women who have ever had an anal orgasm describe it as a particularly intense feeling. The taboo feeling and almost animal excitement makes it more intense and explosive than a “normal” orgasm.

On the other hand, we said before, by no means everyone is capable of enjoying anal sex. For these people, it doesn’t do as much. Therefore, it doesn’t make much sense to “force” an anal orgasm.