Bondage is no longer absent from many bedrooms. Tying is one of the first things people do when they start kink or BDSM (it’s the first letter in this acronym for a reason). In this blog, we explain 8 classic bondage positions. Just because they’re fun.

Spread Eagle (or ‘starfish’)

In this position, the person being tied lies on their stomach or back with their arms and legs wide. When the wrists and ankles are tied to the bed (or the floor, wall or pieces of furniture), it gives the other person full access.

You are completely at the mercy of the other person and that is enormously exciting for both parties. In this position you can do all sorts of things. By placing a pillow under the person, you can further facilitate access.

Do not make the cuffs too tight and check every now and then that the person is not cramping.

To tie someone up in this way, it is best to get a bondage kit, such as the Fetish Fantasy Bed Restraint set. This is easy to attach to the bed, is soft and comfortable. The Velcro closure also makes it quick and easy to loosen and tighten.

Bent over

It takes some agility and flexibility, but you can do some really fun things with each other in a “bend-over” position. The idea is that you tie your hands and ankles together with a spreader bar or cuffs. If you have some trouble keeping your balance (or can’t stand bent over for long without getting dizzy, you can also do this position lying on your back. You can also rely on your partner to keep you standing by grabbing your hips.

This is a very kinky position for both men and women, which are ideal for penetration (anal or vaginal) and oral sex.

Use a spreader bar made of metal or leather to keep the other person completely in control in this position.

Tied to a chair

This is a classic among classics. Who doesn’t know the picture of Betty Page tied to a chair with a piece of Duct Tape over her mouth? Because the person is tied up, this position can be maintained for a long time. A disadvantage may be that penetration is more difficult this way. But don’t let that stop your creativity. For example, make a hole in an (old) kitchen chair, or let the person sit on the chair backwards. Or put the person on their knees bent over the seat. A chair has plenty of options. The legs and back are excellent for tying ankles, arms and other body parts to.

This position is therefore ideally suited for oral sex and sex with sex toys. But also for playing with candle wax or whips, a chair is an excellent bondage tool, even for beginners.

Tie the arms behind the backrest and the ankles to the legs of the chair. Use bondage rope or wrist and ankle cuffs for this.

Arms tied over the head

By tying the wrists or arms above the head, the tied person is instantly helpless. In addition, it is much easier to maintain than if the hands are tied behind the back. You don’t have to be particularly agile for it either.

A fun addition is a gag to make the person even more helpless. In addition, drooling is unavoidable, which can add to the joy. Agree on a gesture as a safeword, since the person can’t say anything with a gag.

Tie up with bondage rope or wrist cuffs.

Leapfrog

The leapfrog position is easy to take on and provides access to all the intimate holes. For this position, you tie the wrists and ankles together and place the tied person forward on their knees. The person can then continue to rest on their shoulders with their head on the floor. You can also vary by placing the person on their back.

Further, you can vary by securing the wrists on the inside (with the arms between the legs) or the outside of the ankles. You can also add a spreader bar to make sure the legs stay apart.

This is a position with particularly high potential for various kinky games.

The hogtie

A hogtie is the tying of the hands and feet behind the back. Often the person who is tied up lies on his or her stomach. That is not very comfortable, but that is exactly the intention. Penetration is virtually impossible with a hogtie, but there is still plenty to play with hands and sex toys. For example, add a wand vibrator to tease the helplessly tied up person even more.

Of course, you can use rope for any form of bondage. Each type of rope has its advantages. The disadvantage of rope is, that it takes a long time to tie someone up and also that it takes a long time to free someone again. There are various hogties sets that are also suitable for beginners. With these hogties sets you can make a classic hogtie, but you can also combine the cuffs.

If you already have wrist and ankle cuffs, you can also buy the middle piece separately. And if you already own several bondage items, you can also connect them together with double carabiners. This is a cheap and effective way to expand your bondage practices.

The shrimp

By forcibly tying someone up bent over, the tied person assumes the posture of a shrimp. For the person tied up, this may be even more difficult to maintain than a hogtie. Like the hogtie, the “shrimp” is meant to be a torture position. By sitting hunched over, it is harder to breathe. Therefore, keep a close eye on your partner. Keep in mind that it not only takes time to secure someone in this position, but also to release someone again. Therefore, never wait too long.

Start tying up one person while he is sitting. At the end, push him forward into this position. In this position, access to the genitals and anus is easily possible. Penetration is easier in this position than with a hogtie.

Use bondage rope, a harness, or connect a collar to ankle cuffs.

The mummy

Mummification is a typical form of bondage, where complete restriction of movement is the goal. As you can see from the picture, sex is almost impossible. However, in this position you can tease the tied one with, for example, a wand-vibrator. This is not a form of bondage for inexperienced submissives. This is because the tied person may panic if they are tied from top to bottom.

You can use different materials to mummify, such as cling film, bondage tape, or a straitjacket.

Sometimes the genitals are actually left free so that sex is possible while the person is completely tied up. This makes this form of bondage ideally suited for teasing and denying an orgasm (edge play) or a forced orgasm.

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Whatever position you try, communicate well with each other before, during and after. Assure yourself that the other is fully consenting and what boundaries are not to be crossed. Agree on a safeword with each other. Bondage can be very intimate in this way.

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