Summers in the Netherlands. Sometimes it’s two fantastic days and the next year one heat wave follows another. And do you remember October 2014? We were still barbecuing until late. When the outside temperature rises, the big question is, how can you have hot sex without overheating?
Not in the mood?
Not everyone likes high temperatures. You can dress against the cold, but what do you do when it is boiling hot? It is often stuffy and clammy, and an overall feeling of lameness overtakes you. If you’re already overheated, do you still feel like having sex? That warm body of your partner against you (or on top of you). Sticky sweaty bodies, smelly with sweat. It doesn’t make it any better.
That is a great pity. How can you get some intimacy, if you’d prefer to lie in bed like a starfish, so that your legs don’t touch. How can you have sex when you almost melt? For everyone who does not like the heat, we have some tips to still have enough intimacy at higher summer outdoor temperatures.
Buy a (portable) Air Conditioning
When it’s too hot to think about sex, it’s time to cool down (in) the bedroom. The most effective way to deal with that is to install an air conditioner in the bedroom, or at least a few hefty fans. Now those things cost quite a bit, so quite a few cool packs or bags of ice may be a good alternative (they also make less noise, which may also help you sleep better).
… and furthermore
Furthermore, keep your curtains closed to keep out all sunlight. Take your duvet out of the cover and sleep under the empty cover. And take off your pajamas (if you have not already done so). Also, put a bottle of water with ice next to your bed. Waking up at night provides the necessary hydration.
And finally, wet a washcloth and put it in the fridge or freezer. Put that next to your bed to cool down at night.
Temperature Play, anyone?
While we’re at the subject of ice cubes, you can also use those things as a sex toy. With an ice cube you can have fun games, especially when it is very hot. Have your partner rub an ice cube over your skin. Let him or her start at your neck and face, then slowly toward your arms and chest. Then over your nipples and then over your belly to your groin. Or let him/her take an ice cube in his or her mouth and give you kisses all over your body. The cold ice can cause a very pleasant sensation on your most intimate parts. It’s kind of the opposite of playing with candle wax. Just try it.
Or give each other a massage, using the ice cubes as massage stones. By playing with the cold temperature you cool your body so you can better tolerate the heat. It is also very nice to tease each other with ice. Be careful not to place the ice cubes directly from the freezer on your skin (or against your intimate parts), as they can stick and even cause burns. You can easily prevent this by first holding the ice cubes under the cold tap, or taking them in your mouth.
A great way to cool down is to take a cool shower. The colder the water, the more sensitive your skin and your body will cool down quickly. Sex in the shower is always a good idea. You can soap each other with shower cream or oil and you immediately remove any unpleasant sweat odors.
Or go swimming
Even better than showering is swimming together. Usually you don’t have that much freedom of movement in the shower or bathroom. Sex in the water might be a bit more risky because you can get caught (unless you have a private pool), but might that make it even more exciting?
Try a different position
If lying close together is not pleasant with high summer temperatures, try a position where you have less direct body contact. Do it doggy style instead of in a missionary position. Be creative and make it a game to invent positions in which you have less contact. It can be very exciting.
If even that is still too hot (pun intended), try masturbating together. You don’t touch each other, but look at each other. It’s horny and you might even learn something from it!
Or, try tantric sex. For example, do a Yoni Shiatsu. Or resist the urge to touch and focus on enlightened intimacy through breathing exercises.
A very good way to have less contact is to use a sex swing. Because you literally float in the air, you can also easily put some fans around you to make it even more airy. There are many fuck swings for sale, ranging from models that you attach to the door to models that you can put in the middle of the room. There is a model for every wallet. Anyway, such a swing is a very nice way to keep it cool during hot sex. You can also easily do some complex positions, even if you are not as flexible as a circus artist. Even Khloe Kardashian & Lamar Odom have one.
If all of these tips are still not enough for you, remember that global warming is really starting. You can always move to colder places, such as the North Pole or Siberia.
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