The winter is coming. Time for shepherd’s pie and stew, an extra blanket and turning up the heat to ‘global warming’ position. But what about sex and intimacy? It is a well known fact that we have more sex in the summertime and that’s not surprising. Thick socks and a flannel pajama is not the most titillating. So how can you keep the fire of passion burning and, if possible, stir it up a bit?
It is completely understandable that you don’t want to be buck naked when it is freezing outside. But that doesn’t mean that you have to be all wrapped up and all sexiness is buried under a thick layer of clothing. There are two ways you can use clothing in your advantage.
First of all, you can keep your clothes on in the bedroom. Don’t take off your jeans any further than absolutely necessary. Touch each other over your clothes. It can be really hot , not to take time to get undressed or to undress each other, but to do a booty call (half) dressed.
Or, if you’d rather take your time, put on some lingerie that overs all of your body. Choose a sexy catsuit with open crotch, for example. Or, when that is still too cold for you, take a catsuit of latex. Catsuits can be bought in all kinds of designs, sizes, materials and prizes (ranging from 10 to 300 euros).
The best way to warm up during winter times, is by someone else’s body heat. Fishermen reheat drowning victims with mild hypothermia through body to body heating. But also two perfectly healthy people, will suffer from less cold when they lay down close to each other. That is because the surface that is exposed to the cold is of lesser size.
A really nice wat to get some mutual warmth is by massaging. A massage can help you retrieve warmth in different ways. Or at least it will help you won’t get cold. You can use these heating stones, or a ba of seeds that you can heat in the microwave. And you can use massage oil that is specifically for heating the muscles, like Shiatsu olie. A great alternative is using massage candles. These are special candles of which you can use the melted wax as massage oil. Or, even better, do a body-to-body massage!
Sex in front of the fireplace
It’s almost an open door, but why don’t you move your lovers nest to the fireplace when its winter? Or, if you lack a fireplace, to any heat source of your choice. Lay down a matras and keep loads of pillows, blankets, fur and other soft and comfortable materials to crawl under at hand.
Nothing stops you from keeping your clothes on (if you are realy cold) or do a massage. Combine the hell out of it!
Do’t forget to keep your sex toys at hand. And drinks. And food. And a relaxing playlist on Spotify. En extra wood for the fire. Turn off your mobile and pull the plug from the door bell, because your heading for some really big fun tonight.
With temperature play there are two ways you can turn: cold and hot. It goes without saying that you wouldn’t go for the cold direction in the winter, because you are already shivering. Put on the kettle for a big pot of tea (or even better: warm up some delicious glühwein ). Take a huge sip and use it to warm your moth. Now cover your partners body with kisses. Take a new sip every now and then to reheat your mouth.
Use sex toys that easily adapt heat, like a dildo made of glass or metal. Put in in a bowl of warm or mildly heat water. Rub the warmed up dildo over your partners body. Start with the neck and go south to the chest or back, don’t skip the buttocks and legs and don’t forget the feet. Then go back up. If you have two toys, take turns. While one is heating up in the bowl, massage your partner with the other.
By hitting your partner gently with your bare hand, a whip, a flogger or a paddle, you start a process in which blood travels to the areas you have worked on. This will cause a warm glow on the skin. Different materials and devices have different sensations on the skin.
When it’s cold, choose for a SM toy with a bigger surface and rather hit in a high tempo than with much power. Rub the skin after every few hits. Use massage oil or nurturing skin creme.
The light pain will also cause the production of hormones such as endorphin and adrenaline. As a result you will experience less cold.
When it’s cold outside in the winter, you’d rather choose positions in which you have lots of skin contact, like the missionary position or the inversed missionary position. Make as much use of the Coital Allignment Techninque (CAT), by rubbing your bodies – specifically the pelvic area – against each other. Another suitable position is spooning. Or crawl at each other’s lap, and hold each other tight. And if you love doing it doggy style, don’t go sitting on all fours, but lay down flat on your stomach and put a pillow under your pelvis. If you rather have the woman on top, don’t sit up straight, but make as much body contact as possible.
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