Rimming is another word for anilingus (or analingus). Or in plain English: licking the anus. For some people it is an absolute no-go and that is fine. As with everything, you should only do sexual activities if you are fully consenting. For others, it is something delicious and some people will at least be curious about it. Still, it can take some time to find a good position for oral sex from behind. Therefore, we make some suggestions.

Rimming; dirty or tasty?

Anal sex is a taboo subject in many cultures, and in some countries it is still punishable by law. Nevertheless, chances are that you have seen anal sex in pornography. And chances are you have found it exciting to watch. Licking your partner’s anus is not something you do every day. The anus is tight and surrounded by thousands of nerve endings, which makes stimulating the anus with the tongue very pleasurable.

However, you may have to cross a boundary. After all, the anus is also the opening through which you defecate and, for most people, defecation is not something you want in your mouth. So if you find the idea repulsive, that is completely understandable.

However, it is a myth that the anus tastes like poo. The penis and vagina secrete fluid when you are sexually aroused. Therefore, these body parts have a distinctive taste. This is not the case with the anus. A clean – washed – anus therefore simply tastes like skin.

For the recipient, however, it is a great feeling to be touched there. If you are licked or kissed there, a tongue can make you extremely aroused. Beforehand, go to the toilet and take a bath or shower. Clean your asshole well with some water and mild soap. Make sure you have not eaten anything for a few hours beforehand and avoid foods that make you fart (such as fizzy drinks and beans).

If you want to rim safely, use a dental dam. If you don’t have a dental dam at hand, use a rubber glove or a condom between the anus and your tongue. If you don’t have that handy either, you can use cling film from the kitchen. It is also better to be careful with the combination of rimming and oral sex. There is a chance of bacteria from the anus entering the urethra and causing an infection.

Rimming: How?

As with kissing, going down and blow jobs, rimming should be done slowly. Start with slow careful licks and kisses. Vary the patterns (up and down, zigzagging, circling) and slowly increase the pressure. If you want – and dare – you can also push the tip of your tongue a little inside.

Rimming alone might turn your partner on, but if you combine it with other forms of stimulation, you’re sure to drive them crazy! For example, massage the perineum (that little bridge between the anus and the balls for penis owners, or between the anus and the vagina for vulva owners). Further, use your hands to stimulate the clitoris or penis while you lick your partner’s anus.

If you are not sure whether you would like to be rimmed, try gently rubbing your fingertip along your anus while masturbating. Use some lubricant to mimic saliva.

What are great positions for rimming?

Everyone who has ever experienced it, can confirm that it can be quite difficult to spoil the anus of your partner with your tongue in an easy and comfortable way. The anus is somewhat hidden between the buttocks and you do want to find an elegant and erotic way to do it. Therefore, try these positions:

1. For beginners

The simplest position – and therefore perfect for beginners – is the one in which the receiving party lies on his back and raises his legs. This makes it relatively easy for the giving party to have good access to the back entrance.

At the same time, you also have your hands free to stimulate your partner, for example the penis, clitoris, breasts or other body parts.

2. Relaxed

The most comfortable way to enjoy rimming as a recipient is to lie on your stomach. In this way, you can relax completely and that is the most pleasant way for anal sex. For the other person, it can be more difficult to lick between the buttocks. This is easily solved by placing a cushion under your hips. This will raise your behind a little and make your hole more accessible.

A good variation of this is when the receiving party lies on their side with their legs raised.

The receiving party can simultaneously satisfy himself with the hand or a sex toy.

3. Standing

Especially if you are still a little unsure and want to rim for the first time, it can be nice to take a shower together. That way you can be sure that everything is clean. In the shower, it is easiest to rim standing up. That is, the receiving party stays standing and the giving party kneels behind the partner. The standing party can lean against the wall with their legs apart and arch their back a little to make access easier.

In this way, the giving party also has their hands free, so you can play ‘the rusty trombone’ or ‘the wet trumpet’. These musical names refer respectively to rimming in combination with jerking off the penis or fingering the clitoris.

4. Face sitting

An easy way to give your partner access to your behind is to ‘sit on his face’. This is a very direct way of offering your anus to your partner.

You can do this so that you can still make eye contact, or you can sit the other way round so that you can stimulate your partner (or yourself) with your hand.

If your hands are free, you can also use a sex toy in this position. Vulva owners can use an air pressure vibrator or a lay on vibrator to stimulate their clitoris. Penis owners could use a masturbator. The recipient of analingus can also use a sex toy to stimulate the giving partner.

5. Rimming 69

With a little effort, you can turn a 69 position into one where you can lick each other anally at the same time. It does require a little further curling up to access each other’s rear.

Also, one partner can do analingus while the other gives oral sex. To make this a little easier, you can also lie on your side. This will prevent the lower one from getting a cramp in the neck.

6. Rimming doggy

A perfect way to access your partner’s behind is if they bend over, for example by getting down on their hands and knees.

For both the giving and receiving party, this is an easy position that requires little effort. This position is also an excellent starting point for spanking or to proceed to anal penetration after oral foreplay.

The seated party can facilitate access even further by widening the knees or by making the back hollow.