Oral sex is great. But perhaps it can be even greater. That’s why we have collected 22 tips to make oral sex (cunnilingus and fellatio) one giant fiesta.
1. Talk dirty to me …
Sex is dirty and dirty is nice. You can make oral sex even more dirty with dirty talk. Tell your partner what you want to do, what you see, how good it is. Munch, moan, sigh. This way, you not only stimulate the genitals of your partner, but also the brain! By showing your enthusiasm you will let your partner know that oral sex is anything but boring to you. Don’t be afraid to get messy and sloppy. Your kin and cheeks should be covered with saliva and bodily fluids. This will show how much you’re enjoying it.
2. Try different positions
You can have oral sex in so many different ways. What about position 69, standing up, sitting down, kneeling, … Make sure that you change positions regularly. This will keep it interesting and on top of that your muscles will be less wearied.
3. Be altruistic
Be honest: when you give oral sex, you expect to get reciprocated, right? Or are you completely selfless? When you give oral sex spontaneously, without expecting something in return, you will definitely give a positive signal that you really love it. And yes, that’s just hot! Change any ordinary situation into a hot experience by combining it with unselfish oral sex. Is your partner on the phone, having breakfast, watching TV, behind the wheel on the highway, or is your partner about to wake up? Throw in some oral sex and create new experiences!
4. Go get some toys with that
Sex toys are always a great addition to your sex life and to oral sex in particular. When you are both into that, you might want to add a butt plug or some anal beads. When your partner has a vagina, a G-spot vibrator or a dildo is always a good idea. Treat the clitoris with your tongue and mouth, while you stimulate the G-spot with one of those. When your partner has a penis, the Fun Factory Manta is a great addition for some extra stimulation. In short, just let your imagination run wild.
5. Get inspired by porn
Of course, porn isn’t realistic. Yet, you might get some inspiration from porn movies. Look for ‘frenulum‘, ‘tantra lingam oral massage’ or ‘tantra yoni oral massage’. Or just put on some porn movies. Let your partner watch what’s going on at the screen while you go down.
Your warm breath is a great way to make oral sex even hotter. Not only will your mouth come dangerously close – which makes the anticipation grow – but the soft striking of your breath will stimulate the nerve endings. This works just as well with fellatio (blow job) as with cunnilingus (eating pussy). When you first wet your partner with your tongue, your breath can be felt best.
7. Include the perineum
When anal stimulation isn’t exactly your thing, you still can stimulate the sensitive nerve endings of the anus during anal sex. The perineum is that little seam in between the balls and the anus with men and between the vulva and the anus with women. Massage that area with your fingertips, or kiss and lick it. Guaranteed succes!
8. Don’t go straight to the final goal
Whether your partner is male or female, never go straight to your target. Kiss, stroke, lick other body parts first. Start with the neck, work your way down to the breast(s) and nipples and then go towards the belly. Skip the crotch and go the inner thighs. Work your way up slowly to the main attraction.
9. Wander around the panties
And while we’re at the topic of wandering around: keep the panties on for a while and kiss around and on it. The anticipation will make your partner extremely hot. Combine this with tip 1.
10. Make eye contact
Eye contact is the most primal form of communication. Eye contact will create some kind of psychological excitement. The brain activity will increase, the heart accelerate, perspiration will start and breath will speed up. When you make eye contact during oral sex, you will show how much you enjoy it. Also, you can see if your actions have the desired outcome. Because you have your mouth full, you can speak with your eyes.
11. Spread the labia
When your partner has a vagina, it is super important that you spread the labia well when you give oral sex. That way the clitoris will be btter exposed so you can access this sensitive spot from all angles with your tong and lips. Don’t be afraid to spread them for your partner, when you are on the receiving end (in case your partner forgot).
For both men and women there is some way to make them go over the edge. Usually that is an effective way, but also a bit dull. Alternate your techniques. Change speed, go from lengthy licks to little kisses, … Especially in at the start, you can built the tension.
13. Put out the lights (or wear a blindfold)
When you are not particularly visually oriented – so when the sight of your partner going down on you doesn’t turn you on – than you might get distracted easily. Perhaps you’re having trouble to to totally surrender yourself? What might help is switching of the lights, or – when it’s not dark enough – wear a blindfold. When you can’t see a thing, all your other senses will react stronger.
14. Oral sex, but no partner?
The real feeling of a mouth is hard to match with a sex toy. When you don’t have a partner, there are a couple of sex toys though, that come really close. When you have a clitoris, you might want to try a vibrator on air pressure, like theWomanizer or – when your budget is not that big – the Satisfyer. Other toys mimic the movement of a tongue, like the Ora 2 from LELO. When you have a penis, there are many different masturbators that can give you the feeling of a good blow job.
16. To deep-throat or not to deep-throat
The head, and especially the frenulum, is the most sensitive part of the penis, like the clitoris is the most sensitive part of the vulva. Still there are some men that enjoy having the feeling of their full penis being stimulated (like there are women who like penetration). Now, you can do so by taking the entire penis into your mouth or – when it’s really big – even let it slide down your throat. This will take some determination though, because a gag reflex is lying in wait. You can easily mimic that feeling by grabing the penis with your hands and stimulate the head only with your mouth.
16. Spit or swallow?
There are two types of partners: those who spit and those who swallow. The choice is yours. The amount and taste of his juice depends on his diet and health. The taste of a smoking meat eater is different than that of a non-smoking vegetarian. On average you will not get more than a teaspoon in your mouth. But if you just don’t like it, there are plenty f alternatives: spit it in a tissue (that you strategically placed within reach), or let him climax on other parts of your body (like on your face, breasts, belly).
17. Suck it, bitch!
Sucking is not just a technique that works well on the penis. Sucking the clitoris will produce more pressure. The blood supply will increase and the clitoris will become extra sensitive. Not everyone likes it, but it doesn’t hurt to try.
18. Oral sex as foreplay or the main act?
We should really learn to think less in terms of foreplay and main acts. Really. Many men and women like to receive oral sex as foreplay, but why would you think like that? Why wouldn’t you interrupt Penis-In-Vagina sex for some oral? And why would you even stop after you have made your partner come through oral?
19. Give your tongue some rest
When you are bury giving oral sex, you might become tired after a while. You can get cramped up in your jaw or even in your tongue. All the more reason to change the game. Use your hands, change positions, tag team your partner (your turn now), …
20. Don’t forget the nipples
Of course oral sex is great, but it becomes even better when you use your hands at the same time to stimulate other erogenous parts. While your tongue is doing all the (heavy) work, you might want to stimulate the nipples of your partner with your hands, for example.
21. Cool is hot (and so is hot)
It’s incredibly hot when you take an ice cube or a mint in your mouth while performing oral sex. The same goes for putting some toothpaste into your mouth. A sip of cold drink (preferably champagne, but even water will do) has a similar effect. A sip of hot tea is also extremely hot and exciting. Play with different temperatures and make your partner go crazy.
22. Facesitting and facefucking
Receiving oral sex is a passive thing. Not everybody enjoys lying back and getting served. When you rather take the initiative and have control over your own satisfaction, try sitting on the face of your partner (facesitting) or fuck your partner in the mouth (facefucking). When receiving oral sex is like fine dining, facesitting and facefucking is more like munching fastfood.
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