Whether you are dating because you are looking for a long-term relationship, or because you want to add some more intimacy in your current relationship, or because you are just ready for some casual sex with your fuckbuddy / friend with benefits; you might need some inspiration. Because the fact that you want to date may be a given, but how you want to do so in a creative way remains to be seen. Therefore, below we answer the question of how you can give concrete meaning to a sexy, intimate date.

1. Hotel date

Perhaps the most obvious suggestion is that of a hotel date. This option may be off the table for you because it requires a certain budget. Yet a hotel date does not have to be expensive at all. Look for deals, paying particular attention to “day bookings. Some hotels offer rooms from 9 to 5 at affordable prices. There are several websites that offer day rooms. This way you can meet discreetly around lunch time, for example.

Not all hotels have daily rates on their websites. Give them a call, because often there are options. And don’t be afraid; hotels don’t ask annoying questions when you want to book a room (they are really used to some things).

You can create the right atmosphere with some lingerie and massage oil. Or you can make it more exciting with some (soft) bondage stuff and your favorite vibrator!

2. Game night

A fun and relaxing way to spend the evening together with your sweetheart is with an erotic game. There are dozens of such games on the market, with different themes. Whether you want to make it naughty and romantic, or a little more direct.

If you prefer not to buy games specifically for this purpose, consider that you can make a sexy version of almost any game.

Game nights are also great for more than two people!

3. Parking

An estimated 60% of all men and women have had sex in the car on occasion. Especially in the beginning of the relationship – when you can’t keep your hands off each other – sex in the car is a favorite. But why not go back to those days?

An estimated 60% of all men and women have had sex in the car on occasion. Especially in the beginning of the relationship – when you can’t keep your hands off each other – sex in the car is a favorite. But why not go back to those days?

If this sounds like something to you, pay attention along the way to what are good places to park the car. There are plenty of places that are suitable, depending on the time of day. Consider a large parking lot, a remote road in an industrial park, somewhere on a deserted country road, or near a nature preserve.

4. Free nature

Are you someone who likes to spend time outdoors? Then why not go for an erotic date. Go for a walk together and find a quiet spot along the way where you can enjoy each other undisturbed. Of course, there is always that danger of being caught, but perhaps that is what makes it so exciting?

5. A day in bed – bath – bed

You’ve been taking that lazy Sunday morning far too literally for far too long. Come to think of it. But especially when your budget is limited, just staying in bed is nice. If your date doesn’t live with you, invite him or her over for a day of relaxation. The advantage of an early date is also that you are not tired from the worries of the day and you have a nice amount of time.

It does require some preparation. For example, make sure you have croissants and fruit in the house to have breakfast together in bed. Snuggle up – naked – against each other. Talk. Cuddle. Or make it a little more exciting with some lingerie.

Alternate with a bath or shower together. Remember that you can also enjoy yourself in the bath or shower with waterproof sex toys.

6. Sex shop shopping

A perfect way to get to know each other better and to give each other a bit of a headache is to store in sex shops together. Plan a day in Amsterdam and scour all the sex shops in the Red Light District, for example. Ask what the other person likes (and doesn’t like). Try how the vibrations feel against the tip of your nose. Let yourself be surprised by what’s on sale. And who knows, you might buy something you can use with your partner later?

Are there no sex shops near you and is a trip to Amsterdam not worth it to you? Then get behind the computer together and visit an online sex shop.

7. Visit a sex museum

There is one in almost every major city: a sex museum. In Amsterdam, there are even two! The entrance fees are usually quite reasonable and you can spend a few hours in them together. Walking around such a museum together, you can ask each other questions about what excites the other, marvel at attributes from the past, or laugh at erotic images.

8. Going to the cinema, club or restaurant with a bonus

Maybe you’ve already been on a date to the movies, or to a restaurant. Then make it something special this time with remote-controlled sex toys. You can often wear these toys discreetly under your clothes and hand the controls over to your partner.

For owners of a vagina, for example, the Lovense Lush is a great toy. You can control this toy with an app on your smartphone. But this vibrating egg can also respond to sounds picked up by the smartphone’s microphone. So you can literally feel the music or sounds of the movie in your most intimate place!

But Lovense also has toys for persons with a penis. These have the same features and can be controlled with the same app. You can even link multiple toys to one app and share the same experience!

9. Role playing

Role-playing can break the rut in the bedroom. It is exciting to step into the skin of another (fictional) character. Put yourself in a new setting and indulge yourself completely for a change. For example, slip into the skin of an officer and a prisoner, the photographer and the model, or the emperor(s) and the (sex) slave.

Look here for even more role-playing ideas.

10. Surprising shopping

If you find shopping in a sex shop a bit too much of a good thing, but you do have a “dirty mind,” look for erotic items in unexpected places. For example, a lot of kitchen utensils can also be used for sex. And if you’ve read “50 Shades,” then you know that you can also find quite a few materials for a day of BDSM in the DIY store. Think chains, hooks, rope, …

Surprise each other by creatively finding eroticism in unexpected places!

Planning

A fun creative date does require some planning. Think in advance about what you want to do and what you need to do it. Think not only about stuff, but also what mindset and atmosphere is required. How can you achieve that? Because sometimes it is fun to surprise your partner, but sometimes it is also a requirement to get him or her in the right mindset. Start shopping early and “planting the seed” by sending messages and setting expectations!